FWB dumped me

Ivy – you didn’t READ. I was not playing therapist dear. I specifically said I am not a medical professional and she needs one. I gave her some suggestions based on my experiences and I was urging her to get medical help. She stated she felt depressed, I didn’t diagnose her. READ WHAT WAS SAID and you will clearly see that you didn’t have a reason to be concerned someone was playing therapist. If the thread was “scaring you” you didn’t need to read it as you weren’t involved, you haven’t stated you have any experience with depression or given any new suggestions for the OP. I wasn’t speaking to you and you should have just reported it to the sys admin. I’m not here to argue with anyone. Best wishes Ivy.

What’s the point now.

So many pages of dont kill yourself when that was never an issue. Its as if stephanie wants to project her issues.

Alex, I feel you. I’ve also been there. My world crushed and burned and all I could think about was that I wanted him back. I would roll on the floor crying in agony. Luckily I had my friends I could talk to. I drove them mad with talking about him. If you need to do this, go ahead and talk all that you want. Vent here as much as you want. At one point there will be nothing to talk about and you’ll wake up one morning and this subject will not be the first that comes to mind. That’s when the healing begins. Now you are upset and your ego is bruised. It’s not love, it’s you ego talking. If you need this, talk about it, you need to unload all those emotions. But while doing that, let your rational mind understand that this too shall pass and that one day you’ll feel better.

What I did when I was like this and depressed was to go for a walk or workout at least 15 minutes a day and listen to my favorite music. It didn’t stop me from thinking of him, after that I would still call my girlfriends and talk about him and cry. But it would ease the pain for those 15 minutes. I forced myself to do this everyday and one day I found myself not thinking of him for that time. I was starting to heal.

Try it, might help. And vent here as much as you want. It’s a public forum, who doesn’t like it can just stop reading

What the?

Why cant she talk about a guy who dumped her?

Isnt that what most of this forum is about?

Alex I think you should get this deleted. Does anyone know how?

Dyanne

I would never beg and cry. Once they go I leave it.

I really dont know if I should bother staying friends. Or getting my stuff back.

Ladies, venting and working through it is one thing but all she’s doing is finding ways to get a man who was never her BF back! If you want to keep encouraging her to do so then knock yourself out, but ENABLING someone to stay stuck does more harm than good IMO. She’s not reaching out to those other resources whoa re in a much better position to really help her because she’s still focused on this forum.

I’m addressing this to EVERYONE NOT NAMED ALEX, STEFANIE AND RED CURLEY SUE…THAT MEANS THE REST OF YOU EXCEPT ERIC AND HIS STAFF.

Please stay out of this thread if you aren’t dealing with depression yourself or have dealt with it in the past.

I’m not trying to be mean to anyone, but honestly, it’s not helping Alex to hear a bunch of people telling her different things. If you feel this is a “fake post”, just stop responding to it. I personally DO NOT feel it’s a fake post. Alex needs our help and it is the right thing to do.

Alex, honey, hang in there. Stefanie is trying to help you.

Hugs and love to you. :)

Love you Mistral, but who does Alex want to hear from?

Dyanne, when someone is suffering from “deep depression” it is no longer a dating/relationship issue, but a MEDICAL ISSUE and she needs to seek the proper professional and medical resources to deal with it. Unless your licensed to practice psychiatry in the UK I don’t think its wise to keep allowing her to vent here so to avoid getting the help with her medical condition…its like putting a band-aid on a gushing wound.

Lane, you misunderstood me. I am not saying not to get help. I have battled depression, I was medicated, I’ve been in therapy, walked the whole 9 yards , fell and picked myself up . I am the first to suggest therapy when I see this. I was offering my view from experience. I wouldn’t dare post on a thread if I hadn’t been in that situation. I can see myself from 6 years ago in this, that’s why it resonated with me

To everyone – when you’re depressed there is no solution to your problems. You aren’t able to “solve” and go forward. Until you deal with the depression and its root issues, you’re living a black hole. No end to the bad feelings, no matter how much you vent or talk about it or seek advice or whatever. You can’t help it, your brain isn’t able to process logically.

The way Alex describes her life and is talking on this thread, she’s dealing with depression… BUT we can’t know for sure, we aren’t professionals and we don’t know her. She might just be really bummed out about this guy and the rest of her life is fine, I don’t know and it’s not my business at this point.

Alex has made it clear she doesn’t want “help” with depression or anything, she wants to vent about this man. I’m with Lane – I won’t advise or comment any longer. To us it’s pointless and enabling as well as wasting our time. I misunderstood, I thought she wanted help with the depression and couldn’t get help in the UK. I cannot and will not force someone to listen to me when they’ve made it clear they don’t want to. I have other things to do and other people to spend my time and energy with. I won’t waste any more of my time or Alex’s on this thread.

Alex, just a word – a “hey, thanks for trying Stefanie and others, I really just need to vent” would have been the more polite and diplomatic way to handle it, but if you are depressed you won’t get that. So I”m not going to criticize you for it.

For Dyanne, Kim and Sarah, it’s another angle and they are now able to support Alex in the way she wants to. Let them. Good luck to Alex. It’s her post, and she’s now stated the support she wants. So let those who can do it her way talk with her as it’s a free and open public forum. In the months I’ve been here I”ve observed what happens after a while if someone keeps complaining and not resolving, they lose sympathy, people stop responding to them and they go away. It’s handled organically. The first wave has already walked away, so let another group of girls who feel they understand her give it a try. I hope they can help her and she can get past this.

I don’t think there has ever been a time when I’ve been dumped when I didn’t think about getting them back.

Dont we all think about that?