Could he still be interested in me?

Yes but is low interest this early on necessarily a bad thing. Maybe he’s just unsure? Should I text him 2 weeks later or should I wait for him?

Dating in covid19 year really sucks. You get to texting but cant meet and before you know it, you feel chemistry and a bond. But most guys dont bond the same way. They see chatting as a way to kill time and you cant gauge his real interest since you couldnt date. So then the two dates happened. You thought they went great, maybe he did too, but nog enough to poke his interest. So i would not contact him again. If a guy wants a women he goes straight for it. You would have known. This is not your man.

How can we know if youre boring? I would go with it went fine, but i mean you dont want to date every guy you had a nice time with right? For a guy he would have to find you sexually attractive plus an x factor. But you may have texted a lot with this guy at first. Even his texting slowed down fast, so my best guess is he is not interested in looking for serious or he has loads of dates. You shouldnt care or take it personal

If he didn’t ask questions about you, he was not interested in you. It’s that simple. Don’t fret about whether you were boring or said something wrong. I’m sure you’re not boring and said nothing wrong. The chemistry was just not there for him, like Newbie said.

Newbie is also right that women bond through texting/chatting but men really don’t. So you texted a lot before you met, and you thought it meant you had a great connection. But men don’t bond that way. He just saw it as conversation. When you actually met, he obviously didn’t feel personal chemistry with you since he didn’t even ask for a 2nd date or follow up about seeing you again.

Don’t overthink it. There’s nothing wrong with you. This guy just didn’t feel a spark, it happens that way sometimes. Anyway why would you want to date a guy who doesn’t ask you questions about yourself? You can do better than that!

Also– just so you don’t feel bad about yourself. I have been on both sides of the aisle in this situation.

I’ve gone on dates with guys that I really liked, and thought we had tons in common and a great connection, and never heard from them again.

On the flip side, I’ve gone on dates with guys that were really into me, and I felt nothing for them– not because they were unattractive or stupid, on the contrary they were nice looking guys, but I just felt no sexual chemistry when them whatsoever.

It’s just the way dating works. When you meet a guy you truly click with, you’ll both be on the same page and you won’t be wondering if he’s attracted to you.

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It seems like his interest is only vague and that you are way more into him than he is into you. That could be a slippery slope. I wouldn’t reply enthusiastically nor be blunt, I’d just answer shortly and without advancing the convo, and then let things fade out naturally. It seems like he only sees you as one of his many options, so you might get hurt if you continue to invest in him more than he does.

I think the most important questions to ask here are none of the ones you’ve asked us. Who cares what this guy thinks of you, if he thinks you’re boring, if he felt he had a good date with you??? The question REALLY IS – why are you still attracted to a guy that blows hot and cold? And mostly cold at that. Why excited or remotely interested in a dude where half a month can pass before you get a small text from him? There is a great need here to ask – why would this type or unavailable man be so interesting to you that you wrote into a forum for advice about it?

I mean these inquiries literally. Because it took me an amount of time to understand the reason I was having no luck with dating was because I was CHOOSING to “like”, be attracted to, spend my time pining over – men who weren’t emotionally available because I WAS EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE. It was the time when I was afraid to seek what I really wanted. When you love yourself better you’ll STOP being interested in men who make you guess, men who are inconsistent, men who do not invest in courting you. You will be turned off. You might be disappointed, bummed. For like – an hour. Then you’ll go paint your nails or make popcorn or do yoga or something. Really. You won’t.put.up.with.it.

Read Ask Polly online and Baggage Reclaim online. They are the Bible’s for self love and gaining courage around seeking after the relationship you really want. First with yourself. Then ONLY with men worthy of you.