Can’t get over him!!!

I’m curious Aimee. I’d like to see what the gf says, too. There’s something fascinating about watching a car crash in slow motion.

I agree with Alia.

I’m not surprised you sent the messages anyway. You are obsessed with this man and have no self control. All you needed was a reason and you went for it.

I think you are sitting around waiting to see if she leaves him. You only know what he tells you so you have no idea what their financial situation really is.

If she breaks it off I’m willing to bet you will be full of glee and open to seeing him.

Honestly, this is just sad. You could have moved on by now.

I agree with you Amy. I doubt very much he’ll ever want to speak to me again which is partially why I did it. I’m lacking the self control to end it and he never will. This is the nail in the coffin we both knew needed to happen. And I feel badly that the gf may be hurting right now but honestly, she needed to know. She’s early 30s, thinking this guy is the one and had no idea he was a serial cheater. She doesn’t have a lot of time to waste if she wants kids and won’t put up with his behavior.

When I read this forum I often wonder, if it really is possible that so many women have no friends or other people that wish them well and could give them a good advice alligned with what we call a common sense.

And that part is my favourite:

“And I feel badly that the gf may be hurting right now but honestly, she needed to know. She’s early 30s, thinking this guy is the one and had no idea he was a serial cheater. She doesn’t have a lot of time to waste if she wants kids and won’t put up with his behavior”

Do you really try to kid anyone or is it just a form of autotherapy and a desperate attempt to justify your own, not so humble deeds?

Please. I would never tell any of my friends about this. I try to keep my crazy contained. :/

She may not have told him again. This chick is gangster. Regardless, I need to focus on myself and move on. Maybe I’ll be stronger this time around.

Woman of poor judgment and morals? Side piece? Girl that still loves her ex?

I’m not usually this bad. First time knowingly cheating with a taken guy – not that it makes it any better.

Oh I definitely didn’t do it to save her, just saying that I think she should know. And as the anger subsides, my thoughts on this are changing a bit. I agree with all of you – time to be strong and move on. Here’s to willpower.

For the reasons previously stated IF she didn’t know. I don’t know this girl – what she knows, doesn’t know, how she feels etc. And none of that is my biz. I sent the email bc I was mad at him and wanted to be done with the situation once and for all. BUT in general, I think the other woman should know and do what she will with the info. I would want to know.

everyone here criticizes Aimee, but I’m not sure… I was a side chick once and thought about it, telling his wife, too. BUT NEVER DID anything. decided to be wise and mature, cut him off, regretted what I did and never looked back. pretended in front of her and many other people that nothing ever happened (in order to not ruing his reputation, although of course, I was protecting mine too) and, to be honest, years later I sometimes regret not doing anything. I kept my anger to myself and then I had I had to deal with it for months. I sometimes wish I was less noble and do something… something maybe petty, bitter… but at least the truth would come out and the prick would maybe suffer a bit or maybe even learn his lesson.

and also, regardless of Aimee’s motivations, if I was the girlfriend, I would like to know. and I would like to see the proof (such as the messages, pics, videos, whatever), because this really doesn’t leave any room for denial.

so maybe Aimee is bitter, angry and obsessed… but there are pros to this too. and I doubt that, as someone says, Aimee would jump into his arms if they break up. too much anger, no trust – there would be no relationship between you two.

EVERYTHING you said, Sarah. Even the part about me being bitter, angry and obsessed. Lol You have walked this road, I can tell. You get it.

But why would you be angry at anyone but yourself? Noone else is responsible for your bad choices. And to be clear, I walked this road too. My ex slept with me when he was already with other girl. I didn’t know that he was with someone. It never crossed my mind to reproach anyone but him and myself.

Different situation. We have our own grievances separate from the set-up just like any other relationship if you will.

Hah, there is no need to be so defensive. What I tried to help you realize is that the only one way it can turn good for you, is to let it go.

I am not sure what do you expect in this situation, what outcome would be satisfying for you? She realizes that he is a crap and leaves him? He runs back to you and you can live happily ever after? I’m short in imagination, so if you would like to enlighten me, please do so