to be easy though. You probably will have painful conversations afterward. He may react very badly and it may be very hard on both of you for a few weeks, maybe longer.
In the end, it’s the right decision though – dragging it out won’t do either of you any favors.
He will probably want to know why and I would advise caution in how you answer that. I would not recommend saying that you no longer feel attraction to him – that is just throwing salt on the wound and I don’t think it will be helpful, only hurtful.
You could say that things started out great, but then changed. You could say that the feeling you had at the beginning faded out and you wish it didn’t come to this painful point, but you don’t see it improving and you don’t think either of you should drag it out any longer.
And for the time being, refrain from listing your relationship status on Facebook or plastering pics of you and other guys on your photo albums for a bit. I guess you could call it a Web 2.0 breakup courtesy.
When it comes to dating, relationships or even breakups, I think the place you are coming from is much more important than what you actually say. If you can do your best to come from a place of love and respect when you’re communicating with him, you’ll make it as easy on both of you as you can.
It’s not always easy to come from a place of love and respect (especially if he’s hurt and starts insulting you or making accusations), but try your best. Soon enough, this will all be behind both of you and, believe it or not, someday he will be thankful for it.
Hope it helps,