About the Author, Sabrina Alexis

I’m Sabrina Alexis, the co-founder, and co-editor of A New Mode. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want. I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Instagram.

Articles by Sabrina Alexis


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6 Annoying Couple Habits (And How to Break Them)- The Frisky

Best Honeymoon Destinations For Any Budget – Your Tango

12 Celebrity Exes Who Are Still Friends – Newser

10 Things Girls Should Never Have to Justify –Her Campus

The Best Porn for Women – Your Tango

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It doesn’t matter how perfectly you’ve mastered the art of winged liner, highlighting and contouring, or any other fancy beauty technique, a clear, radiant complexion trumps everything when it comes to looking amazing. Your complexion is the first thing people notice about you, it is the difference between looking young and healthy, or ragged and run down.

Me and my skin have had a complicated relationship over the years. I struggled with minor breakouts as a teen, which evolved to full-blown acne as an adult (the fact that such a thing is actually quite common didn’t make it any better!). And it wasn’t just the acne. My skin also alternated between being super dry or ultra oily and my skin tone was always dull and uneven.

Fortunately, things have dramatically improved in recent years. My acne days are long gone (and people don’t even believe me when I tell them I used to have it because all the evidence has disappeared as well!). And my complexion looks more radiant and youthful now than it did a decade ago. In the past, people would always tell me I looked tired or pale, now no one believes me if I say I’m tired (but you look for refreshed and luminous!). In fact, I get complimented on my skin and asked about my skincare regimen almost on a daily basis!

A beautiful complexion comes down to two things: the right diet and the right products.

It took a lot of trial and error but I’ve finally found a selection of secret-weapon products that keep my skin in top shape. And here they are: [continue reading…]

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Why Don’t Women Know What Men Find Attractive? – Salon

Should Premarital Counseling Be a Marriage Requirement? – Your Tango

5 Signs It’s Time to Define the Relationship – Her Campus

7 People Who had Surgery to Look Like a Celebrity – Newser

101 Wedding Hairstyles for Every Hair Type – Your Tango

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Foolproof Flirting Tips


A few weeks ago, a friend of mine was asking for advice on how to be more flirty. Whenever anyone asks me a relationship question I can usually rattle off an informed answer, almost like a knee-jerk reaction,  but this one left me surprisingly stumped. I certainly know how to flirt, but I couldn’t really convey the tricks of the trade. I’m someone with a very naturally flirty personality, and when I meet a guy that I click with, my natural essence just gets enhanced. It never really occurred to me that some women aren’t the best flirts.

After she asked me this question, I started paying more attention to flirting behavior all around me. I also spoke to some guys about it to find out the kind of flirting behavior that really gets their attention.

My “research” also got me thinking of the importance of flirting in general when it comes to courtship. I think us gals overlook the fact that approaching a girl and asking her out  is pretty scary and nerve-wracking for most guys. Flirting is a way to convey a level of interest that let’s a guy know he won’t be shut down or humiliated if he asks you out or asks for your number.

Men and women are pretty different when it comes to how they approach relationships and interpret things in general. These fool-proof flirting tips are guaranteed to send the right message and not get lost in translation.

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Best Birth Control Options – Your Tango

6 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup – Her Campus

Morning Light Could Be the Key to Weight Loss – Newser

1o Physical Signs Someone is Lying to You – The Gloss

Bachelorette Party Ideas That Aren’t Cheesy – Your Tango

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An Open Letter to All Men


Dear Male Gender,

I have been writing about relationships for several years now with the goal of helping women understand why you act the way you do. First, I want to say that I really do love your gender. I have learned a lot about myself through relationships with some of you. And without you, I wouldn’t have the amazing career that I do, so thanks!

At the same time,  I think you should know that some of your actions are really confusing the ladies of the world and causing a large amount of unnecessary pain.

A lot of my readers ask: “Why aren’t you giving all this advice to guys? They’re the ones who need it!” This letter is my response to that.

So let’s get right into it.

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How to be Good In Bed: 4 Things You Must Do – Your Tango

5 Signs It’s Time To Define the Relationship – Her Campus

Breakfast Tips to Lose Weight – You Beauty

Bridal Shower Ideas: The Guide to Throwing a Brilliant Bash – Your Tango

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5 Inspiring Love Stories from Real Couples – Your Tango

10 Celeb Couples Who Had Babies Before Getting Hitched – Newser

4 Ways to Make Your Hair Grow Faster – YouBeauty

Weird Ways to Get Him to Like You- HerCampus

7 Creepy Tales of Love and the Supernatural – YourTango

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7 Online Dating Apps That Will Show Off Your Sexiest Trait – Your Tango

Shacking Up Before Marriage Is Not a Ticket to Divorce – Newser

50 Things You Will Absolutely, Never, Ever Regret – The Frisky

6 Healthy Swaps For Foods You Crave the Most – Her Campus

5 Truly Inspiring Love Stories From Real Couples – Your Tango

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Even though I could literally open a store with the amount of makeup and beauty products in my possession, my latest obsession has been finding beauty solutions in unlikely places…like the kitchen and medicine cabinet.

It started a few weeks ago when someone told me that Pepto-Bismol works wonders when it comes to clearing up breakouts. I thought it sounded ridiculous, but I was curious enough to give to a try and was astounded by the results (more on that later). This little experiment got me wondering what other unconventional beauty tricks I could try.

I make a concerted effort to live a healthy and natural life. I try to avoid eating anything that comes out of a bag or box, am mindful about the ingredients in products I use (I also have to be because my skin is super sensitive), so was really drawn to the idea of using natural ingredients to solve my beauty issues.

Through my research, I discovered that the best beauty products aren’t always found in the beauty aisle and I was amazed by how dramatically these little tricks of the trade worked. Since I started experimenting with natural beauty concoctions, I can’t go anywhere without someone asking me my skincare secrets (and it’s been pretty funny seeing their reaction when I tell them!).

And here they are:

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When to Have Sex With a Guy


Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships. He said: “Before a girl sleeps with a guy, she has all the power. Afterward, he has all the power.” I’ve told this to countless friends, both male and female, over the years and have been met with a resounding: “That is so true!.” You can choose to agree or disagree, but there’s no denying that sleeping with a guy has a significant impact on the relationship and can either deepen it or turn it into a physical thing without an emotional leg to stand on.

Most men want sex and most women want a commitment. That’s not to say men don’t want commitment, they do, it’s just not the driving force behind their behavior, getting a lot of sex is. You can blame it on biology and a man’s innate need to spread his seed, or on today’s culture which deems men who sleep with lots of women studs (and women who sleep with lots of men sluts), but it’s just the way it is. As such, women have control when it comes to sex and can decide whether to give in or not, while men have the control when it comes to commitment. [continue reading…]

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25 Ryan Gosling GIFs To Brighten Up Your Monday! – Your Tango

Bloated? 6 Foods to Shrink Your Belly – YouBeauty

What Guys Really Think … When You Don’t Offer To Pay On A Date – Your Tango

DIY Beauty Treatments for Hopeless Klutzes – The Frisky

9 Reasons You’re Still With a Jerk – The Stir

How to Have “The Talk” to Define Your Relationship post image

The first time I had “the talk” turned into more of a ridiculous display of exactly what not to do. I was in college and had been seeing this guy for a little over a month and had never felt so strongly for someone else, ever. We spent a ton of time together and I figured we were heading toward being “official” but it wasn’t a pressing matter on my mind, it just lingered in the depths.

That all changed one night when I introduced him to my friends for the first time. The night started out great, we had some drinks and went to a bar with some of his friends. But it all took a turn when me and my friends went to the bathroom to fix our faces and they started getting in my ear about how strange it was that he and I weren’t official yet, and what a bad sign that was. In addition to a fresh coat of powder and gloss, I left the bathroom with a giant chip on my shoulder.

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10 Dating Tips I Wish I’d Followed While I Was Single – Your Tango

The Worst Love Advice We Give Our Friends – Her Campus

21 Things That Are Totally Fine to Fake – The Frisky

How to Buy a Bra (You’re Probably Doing it Wrong!) – Betty Confidential

No Time? No Problem! Cooking Channel’s Nadia G’s Easy Recipe – Your Tango

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8 Modern Dating Rules Every Single Should Know – Your Tango

5 Tips to Grow Longer Hair – Her Campus

Your GIF Guide to Getting Over a Cheating Ex – Tressugar

The Weight-Loss Lies We Tell Ourselves – The Frisky

Sick Of Leftovers? Willie Degel Has An Easy Dinner Recipe For Two – Your Tango

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The 2014 Academy Awards may be over, but the dazzling beauty looks we saw on the red carpet will live on and continue to serve as inspiration, be it for a hot date, a night out, or just for fun.

When you have an exact step-by-step breakdown from the hair and makeup professionals behind the looks, as well as the exact products used, it actually isn’t all that hard to re-create a look.

Below are some of my favorite hair and makeup looks from the ceremony and steps on how to re-create the looks.

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Relationships are really quite simple when you understand the core dynamics at play. When you don’t, however, you can drive yourself half insane trying to figure it all out.

The beginning of a relationship is often the most confusing time, a time when everything seems precarious and you don’t quite know where you stand or where, if anywhere, the relationship is going.

Men and women are different and as such, the way we experience and process relationships are different. Men tend to be much more in the moment, if the relationship is enjoyable in the here and now, they’re happy. If it’s unpleasant, they either distance themselves or leave.

Women, on the other hand, tend to get stuck in the details, the nuances, the “clues” both real and perceived. In the midst of this quest to figure out what’s going on and where he stands, they often lose sight of what’s important (the actual relationship, and how it is in the here and now).

No one intentionally seeks to sabotage their relationship (at least, not if you really like the guy). Conversely, women usually go in with the best intentions and can be blindsided should the relationship crumble before it really gets going.

Here are five things you might unknowingly be doing that can ruin your relationship:
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15 Surprising Romantic Ideas To Spice Up Your Marriage – Your Tango

9 Reasons Why You Should Love Your Body – Her Campus

Every Dress Worn by Best Actress Oscar Winners, 1929-Present – The Frisky

Five Signs He’s Keeping Your on the Backburner – Betches Love This

5 Insanely Powerful Tips On How To Make Love To A Man – Your Tango

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Bridal Shower Ideas: The Guide To Throwing A Brilliant Bash – Your Tango

5 Tips for Escaping a Dating Dry Spell – Her Campus

15 Highly Annoying Habits you Should Overlook in Your Relationship (And 9 You Shouldn’t) – The Frisky

Exhausted? 8 Ways to Beat the Burnout – Refinery29

One-Night Stand Etiquette – Your Tango

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7 Perfect Valentine’s Day Ideas For Singles – Your Tango

Valentine’s Day: Girls’ Expectations Vs. Guys’ Reality – Her Campus

12 Relationship Tests (And How To Pass Them With Flying Colors) – The Frisky

Bad Beauty Habits to Stop Right Now – Refinery29

100 Reasons Why I Love You – Your Tango

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Happy Valentine’s Day! I know this day can be a sore subject for some ladies, namely those getting over a guy or those who feel a bit lonely. There really is no need to bash all the happy couples out there. Instead, use this day to appreciate the love you have in your life, there has to be some.

As you may know, I’m an avid quote collector. In honor of this lovely day to celebrate love, here are my favorite quotes on matters of the heart.

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30 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For All 5 Senses – Your Tango

The 16 Types of Drunk Girls – Her Campus

Top 5 Whack Diet Myths and Their Skinny Truths – Betches Love This

The 18 Stages of Being Single in the Winter (in GIFs) – The Frisky

10 Gifts NOT To Give Her On Valentine’s Day – Your Tango

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10 Awesome Valentines Day Gifts For Him – Your Tango

Why and How You Should Clean Your Makeup Brushes – Her Campus

The Rules for Being On a Break With Your Boyfriend – College Candy

Why Guys Act Like Jerks After a Break-up – The Frisky

The Passion Pretzel? 7 Crazy Sex Positions You Need To Try – Your Tango

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Here’s a scenario that might sound familiar. You’re seeing a guy for a little while, it could be weeks or maybe months. You text a lot, hang out, have fun, things seems to be moving along swimmingly and a relationship seems like it’s just around the corner.

Then poof … he’s gone. He disappeared and ]has vanished without a trace.

He might do the slow fade out, meaning he stops initiating contact and when you reach out to him he takes hours or days to reply. This goes on for a while until you take the unfortunate hint. Or he “ghosts” and just disappears. He doesn’t reach out and he doesn’t reply when you contact him. [continue reading…]

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9 “Healthy” Foods That Actually Aren’t (And What to Eat Instead) – Her Campus

11 Birthday Quotes From Old-Time Celebrities – Your Tango

Why Self-Compassion is Healthier Than Self-Esteem – Rewire Me

How to Wear All those Fashion Trends Men Hate – The Frisky

Heat It Up: This Is The Best Porn For Women – Your Tango

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50 Most Inspiring Romantic Quotes – Your Tango

20 Weird Beauty Rituals That Will Make You Feel Great – Rant Chic

5 Things That Have to Happen Before You Fix Your Crappy Life – The Frisky

5 Kinky Sex Positions You Should Try – Your Tango

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What do men want in a woman? It may seem like a loaded question, but really the answer is quite simple.

While every guy has his own preferences when it comes to the physical–some like blondes, some like brunettes; some like petite, some like curvy–there are several fundamental qualities that all men crave in a woman.

The media might lead you to believe that getting a man is all about the physical: what you wear, how you do your makeup, the right push-up bra, the right scent. These things will certainly help you attract a man, but will do little to keep him interested and invested.

This is what it takes to be a man’s ultimate dream girl:

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10 Uplifting Quotes To Make Your Day – Your Tango

What Taking Good Care of Yourself Really Means – The Frisky

10 Things to Look Forward to in 2014 – Her Campus

8 Tips for Eating Out Without Blowing Your New Year’s Resolution – Betty Confidential

The 3 Best Sex Games To Play With Your Partner – Your Tango

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Tis the season for making resolutions to be our best selves. Committing to the gym, not smoking, eating healthier, all that fun stuff.

A new year is the perfect time to try and start anew. For most this means breaking through barriers within ourselves that may be preventing its from getting what we want. And what most women want is a loving, healthy relationship (men do too for the most part, but not quite at the same level.)

Here are five tips to make 2016 the year you get the love you’ve always wanted: [continue reading…]

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7 Dating Websites You Won’t Believe Exist – Your Tango

The Lazy Girl’s Makeup Cheat Sheet – Refinery29

Holiday Gift Guide: For the Naughy Or Nice – The Frisky

8 Really Weird Relationship Dealbreakers from the Lives of Redditors – How About We

‘Tis The Season For Love: 12 Christmas Quotes To Keep You Merry – Your Tango

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