The Guy I’m Dating Is Moving Away

So, we met on Tinder. Things moved fast: he asked for my number after a few messages and I gave it to him because he was polite and made me laugh almost immediately. He asked to meet up the next day when I mentioned I was bored. I turned him down. I continued to turn down his request for a date two more times over the next couple weeks. We texted all the time. Finally I gave in and the moment I got in the car with him, I knew I had made the right decision to meet him. We went for dinner and clicked immediately. I’m shy and he is very outgoing but it’s complimentary, we talked nonstop for two hours. He drove me home and asked for a second date, giving me a hug and leaving. I was so excited.

We saw each other again two weeks later and he cooked for me. We slept together and he spent the night. It was wonderful but I still was holding back because I knew I would fall fast for him. He told me that night that he was leaving for further training (he is a medic in the military) for 4 months 4 hours away. We decided to see each other again before he left on Valentines Day. He met my sister that night. I spent the night and next day with him. I let my guard down and I remember him driving me home that night and spending more than 20 minutes saying goodbye.

Over the next 4 months, we texted everyday and talked on the phone and video chatted when he wasn’t too busy. I saw him once a month when he came back home and it was always great. We were growing closer even over the distance.

A little over two months ago, he brought up making me his girlfriend when he returned home. He was excited and happy over the phone as we talked about it. I was over the moon too. We saw each other a couple weeks later and things were different in a good way. His guard was down, he was talking about the future with me (wanting to travel together, have me watch him play sports, etc). I met his best friends. He told them it was love at first sight when we met.

Fast forward a month and everything has changed. He wants to move (he already lives just under an hour away from me). He may go back to school or get posted somewhere else. He can’t support both of us if he goes back to school. I asked where he sees it going now and he told me he can’t commit to anyone right now and that he doesn’t want to lead me on by making promises he may not be able to keep. I understand completely. Things have changed, he is going through a lot, and the timing is bad. He still wants to keep in touch and see me but he wants me to be aware there is a possibility that it could end. He is leaving for sure but he just doesn’t know where or what he will be doing once he gets there.

I know there is something good between us and that we both wanted it to go somewhere not long ago. I am willing and need to also move out of my hometown to get anywhere with my life. The place I have lived has never mattered to me and I have been thinking about where I would want to move to for several years and still don’t know. He’s said he doesn’t want to push it to happen and i don’t either but my gut instinct is screaming at me to not let it go so easily. I want to know if I should offer to stay in touch with him and visit when I can (that way he doesn’t have to worry about anything for the first while). Eventually, if things work out, I could get a job wherever he is and my own apartment. Is this too pushy, it’s been five months since our first date and he is showing no intention of wanting to end it before he leaves?