Pregnant with ex’s kid

This topic has 7 replies and was last updated 4 years, 3 months ago by ANM Staff.

Viewing 8 posts - 1 through 8 (of 8 total)

Author

Posts
February 9, 2020 at 8:29 pm #784952

Daniela

Hi all
Never in a million years did I think this would happen to me as I am very strict with my birth control and have never even had so much as a scare in all of the years I’ve been sexually active. But I ended up being late and took tests yesterday, which all came out positive. I already know what I am going to do because the father and I are no longer together although we do speak to each other. I’m 27 and not ready for a kid. I am planning on getting an abortion but I don’t know if I should tell him or not.

February 9, 2020 at 9:36 pm #784955

Warasen

Don’t tell him and do what is best for you. Good luck.

February 10, 2020 at 2:08 am #784969

Destiny

If your wavering in your decision then you should talk to him first. If your absolute in your decision then there is no point in telling him. It will only cause pain and stress.

February 10, 2020 at 8:54 am #784989

Anon

I think you should tell him. You both created life, you both should have a say in how it’s handled. I have a friend that found out years after the fact that an ex aborted his baby. It still haunts him. He always wanted a baby girl and never had the opportunity… He would have taken full responsibility of the child after birth and everything. Think about it… There are three lives to consider here.

February 10, 2020 at 10:03 am #784999

Paige

Your body, your choice.

If you have a baby you’re not ready for and the father isn’t even in the picture at this point but “wants to have a baby,” who do you think is going to end up raising the kid?

You call the shots.

Hie thee hence to a clinic.

February 10, 2020 at 10:20 am #785001

Lane

Its your body and you have the sole decision to decide what’s best over the long term.

If he would make a great dad and be a great support system in raising it, then tell him. If he would suck as a parent and only end up causing you strife and pain, then don’t.

Birth control isn’t 100% effective, there’s always that small risk of it not working, so don’t beat yourself up or allow anyone to guilt trip you because of it failed. Always do what’s right and best for YOU. Good luck.

February 10, 2020 at 10:25 am #785002

K

This is too big a decision to make with only advice from anonymous strangers on the internet. PLEASE seek counseling to work through whether you should abort or adopt if you are sure you don’t want to keep the child. This choice will be with you the rest of your life. Talk with a neutral professional who will support you in making the right decision.

February 10, 2020 at 2:59 pm #785036

ANM Staff
Keymaster

Mod update:

Hi Daniela – Thank you for sharing your story with the community. I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you are able to find clarity and support.

I noticed several internet bots begin attacking this post with repeated messages which I had to delete. (I also had to delete some posts from previously-banned individuals.) That is the unfortunate nature of the internet – sometimes small groups of individuals with an agenda use this medium as a way to try to attract attention.

I’m going to go ahead and lock-out this topic because it will, unfortunately, attract the wrong kind of attention. I really hope that our community’s feedback helps provide you with clarity and hope! As with any medical procedure, I do encourage you to seek professional guidance, both for your physical health as well as your mental well-being.

Best wishes!
Author

Posts

Viewing 8 posts - 1 through 8 (of 8 total)

The topic ‘Pregnant with ex’s kid’ is closed to new replies.