No response confirming second date – opinions??

Ah, its pants but we’ve all been there. The same thing has happened to me this last week. I have posted about it because i already know and i don’t give a f**k. You shouldn’t either! The guy is a stranger really and doesn’t owe you a thing. It sucks but him messaging to say he has lost interest isnt going to make you feel better really.

He is telling you with his actions that his interest has dipped. There are lots of potential reasons for this but just know its a him problem not a you problem.

I used be so invested and get cut up in these situations but I’ve learnt its not worth it. For whatever reason he is bowing out and hasn’t got the boll**ks to say so.

Just move on he has shown you who he is …. thank you, next!

Just because a guy says he is “nice and genuine” in his profile, doesn’t mean he’s actually nice and genuine. He might THINK he is, but it doesn’t mean it’s true. What does “nice and genuine” even mean, anyway? I only mention this because it’s weird to me that he would say that at all in his profile. You shouldn’t have to tell me you’re a nice guy, it should be clear in your actions.

It sucks to be in this position. But, unfortunately it is what it is. He is speaking loud and clear with his actions. Who knows why he lost interest, maybe he met someone else. You can’t worry about the “why”. I agree with what’s been said in that if you have to do all the work, he’s not interested. You shouldn’t be chasing him down for this 2nd date, he should have already committed to it, if he were interested. Just step way back. Stop messaging him. He knows where to find you if he wants to see you.

Sorry, I’m confused. What card did he lose? His credit card? Seems like a weird excuse for not being able to go out.

Did you guys have concrete plans for tomorrow? I wouldn’t reach out again. If he reaches out tomorrow, i’d just tell him that since I didn’t hear back, I made other plans. You shouldn’t be just available to him whenever he happens to get his act together.

I feel a bit sad for women who are just beginning to date in this online shenanigan-fickleness-flakiness-order women like pizzas-ghostingness-men don’t know how to use their big boy words era.

To be successful and happy at dating now a days requires more self love than ever. It require you to give ZERO f^*ks while also having a soft, open heart. That’s a balancing act every day! Men aren’t the men we were raised to expect them to be (except the ones who are) and as someone posted on this site earlier this week – women feel the need to take over the masculine role because men have become so verbally incontinent and because women are just desperate for connection and commitment (which is a beautiful thing). But men just want (at least initially) a different thing from the process.

Remember this — as much as it HAS changed – essential things have stayed the same. The only way to know a man’s true interest is to allow them to initiate, lead, show, progress the interactions. In Victorian times a woman would drop her handkerchief and if the man picked it up – it was all very much in HIS court. I keep my communications even with my BOYFRIENDS about 70-30. It’s 90-10 in the beginning stages with a guy I don’t know. That means the man initiates 90 percent of the time at first. You agreeing to accept his communications and go on a date was him holding your handkerchief loud and clear. If a man doesn’t follow through you’ll eventually get to the point you barely notice. Another one biting the dust. Then, down the road, a real gentleman will come who will treat you the way you should be treated because you don’t have any time wasters sitting around clogging up the queue. Good luck.