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Ashley Jones
I met this guy a month ago and he was initiating everything in the beginning and asked me out and texted me everyday. We have been having a great time and have been on about 5 dates. On our last date, I brought him over food because he was getting over being sick and we watched a movie and he put his arm around me and held my hand and everything seemed fine. I left and haven’t heard from him since. I never was told thank you for bringing over the food and I haven’t heard from him in two days. It’s weird because he had been texting me everyday and all the sudden I heard no response from him and we were supposed to do something this weekend. I don’t understand what could have happened. It feels like he’s ghosting me, what do you guys think?
Nathalie
Did you ask him? If you asked him and he isn’t responding then there’s a big chance he is fading out. Maybe something happened..hopefully he’s not hospitalised. Or maybe his girlfriend came home? So many possibilities. But whatever you do, if you had already reached out and he still hasn’t responded.. then leave it alone. Don’t push for an answer or for closure, just consider him gone.
JB
Maybe you bringing the food over felt too much like gf behavior to him and he freaked out a little. I would just back off completely. It will show him your not panicking (which you are by questioning this on here)… good luck!
Kathy
Do what JB just said.. Don’t contact him and if he does contact you, act a little chill..
He knows he’s ignoring you.
So many scared, flakey guys out there..
Sensy
I agree with JB.
A
Yes, I agree with the other posters. Don’t initiate contact. It will make things worse for you. He knows what he’s doing. He isn’t interested anymore and he is taking the pussy way out. It will hurt for a week but you will get over it. Stay strong!
Anon
I agree with JB as well. I think you should play it cool and keep living your life. Maybe he was overwhelmed or his flu got much worse either way it wouldn’t have killed him to say thank you for your gesture or check to see that you got home safe. He’s processing his feelings and so should you. Do you really want a guy who just disappears without an explanation?
anon
He sounds totally rude. Sure maybe you bringing food was “too girlfriend” for him, but he has his words and can use them or he could have asked you not to come over.
F Him. You are too good for him.
Lane
Here’s a lesson in dating that shows a man is FADING and no longer interested:
1) Is sick;
2) Is “busy” (usually work related);
3) Has a family emergency (sometimes a death);
4) Texting slows down (takes longer and longer to check in or respond) or ceases altogether;
5) Stops planning time to spend with you (see 1 – 4).It is not a ladies job to “fill in the void.” Always assume a man is talking with, and seeing other ladies the same time he’s seeing you; even though he may not (either true or false), it doesn’t mean anything because he can change his mind at any time, like he did here. It is not a ladies job to show a man what a great GF she would make; its the MAN’S JOB to show YOU what a great BF he make! This is the best mindset to take when you don’t know someone well enough to know what they are thinking or feeling—only when you know, should you act or behave like a GF because he IS your BF.
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