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Rita
I had to send him a text today as the restaurant we had our first date called me that they had found his ID -so it’s totally valid. But I am hoping he doesn’t think it’s my desperate attempt to get back in touch after 5-6 days. I will take my time replying and if he doesn’t take up the chat from this moment on – I am really backing off for good. Is it bad?
L
Why oils the restaurant call You and not him? It’s his ID
L
Why would ..
Lisa
I don’t understand. The restaurant called you? Not him? And you are going to ‘take your time’ responding back to him? Why ? If you have a legitimate reason for contacting him.
This sounds like a ploy to get him to start chatting again. Bad idea.
Rita
Called me as after the date he realised he lost his ID and had no idea whether it was the restaurant or the bar I said I call the restaurant you call the bar. So the restaurant had my phone number – that’s it.
Shannon
Who knows. Maybe this is fate trying to give HIM a nudge towards you. Not everything can be analyzed and fit into a category and be black and white. I wouldn’t play games with taking time to respond to him…if I lost my ID I kind of would be frantic about it, although it’s been two weeks so he may have already taken steps to have it replaced. Still, I would answer him the way I normally would…not necessarily checking the phone every ten seconds but answer the text when you notice it. Be polite. I would also offer to mail it to him and see what he says. Sometimes it does seem like there is some magic out there working in our favor, and who knows, maybe this is one of those times. Maybe not.
Rita
Oh I Already wrote to him that he should contact the restaurant. He hasn’t replied yet but has read it.
Shannon
Ugh not the best sign but maybe he’s driving so he saw the text but didn’t have time to respond.
Well at least you will KNOW definitely by his response if he has ANY interest at all. Or by his lack of response.
Rita
Yeah still silent – 8 hours passed😕
Rita
I am worried I should have just told the restaurant to call him and give them his number
Shannon
Ugh what a jerk! He couldn’t have at least responded “I’ll give them a call, thanks?” Oh well. He’s shown his true colors. Rude. Is that a color?
Khadija
Rita,
Please let this whole thing go.
If he’s not worried about his ID then you shouldn’t be either. This is something that can be replaced, keep that in mind. Plus he’s a grown man.He probably contacted the restaurant and made arrangements on his own to pick up his ID.
Either way he has shown to be non responsive. The time that you are sitting around thinking about him could be spent on someone who’s actually responsive to you.
Just a thought.
Rita
You are right! Honestly
Maria
Maybe he thought this was a plot to get back in touch with him?
Rita
To be fair it is really annoying when a guy is all keen and stuff then does not even bother to reply….ah whatever
Rita
Got a message now: says he broke his phone and lost my number bahahaahah
Rita
I am not sure whether to believe it or not actually. Having said that he hasn’t carried on with the chat since so heyho
Meemee
Just leave it…..
it always seems to me to be WAY more work to try to analyze a guy who is not totally motivated and wanting to see you again, than try to pick up a new guy…
I always take the easier route of stop contacting me or thinking about him…Find someone new….At least that is what I am doing now with myself….
Omi G
I would totally remove the number out of my phone and not even worry about this one hun. Roll our eyes at yourself and just keep smiling. PLEASE DON’T EVEN WANT TO ENTERTAIN THIS DUDE.
Shannon
Ugh, I hate this kind of game playing. Did he not have any other way to get hold of you?
I dated a guy a few times once and then never heard from him again. I’d liked him but figured he didn’t feel the same way. He came back a year and a half later when my e-mail spammed everyone in my address book, telling me that he had texted me but it must have dropped and since I didn’t respond he didn’t think I was interested anymore. I thought that was a likely excuse but because I liked him so much I accepted it. He ended up breaking my heart worse than anyone in my entire life ever had months later. Looking back I feel that he thought he could do better than me but when he found he couldn’t he came back and used that lame excuse.
Tread carefully. Keep your guard up. WAY up.
Rita
To be honest we have a common friend who he could have asked for my number – they work at the same company. So well would not have been impossible but probably did not want to ask. Not sure why if he had been so keen to keep in touch it is not a big deal to ask this other guy saying I broke my phone lost her number can you tell me? He already went out with me so it’s not a creepy thing IMO. Anyway i did not ask why you did not write – simply told him call this number xxxx to get your ID. But somehow he felt he needed to explain why the lack of touch the last 6 days. Yet, he hasn’t carried on since now he had my number – though I know he is busy at work. Goddamnit why do I even care. Really got under my skin by now lol
F
Getting complicated …
Shannon
Funny how that happens. The more they mess with us, the more invested we get.
L
You are seriously this invested after ONE single date?
Raven
Oh Honey – Rita, no…
Here’s how this will play out:
You’ll message him again.
Suggest you get together.
He’ll agree.
You two will have sex – not something you usually do.
You’ll never see him again.
You’ll be heartbroken.
Come back to this site wondering what the Hell happened.Keep your dignity …
He’s shown you he’s not interested … sorry!Who knows who’s around the corner for you…
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