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Rae Milly
So I was dating this guy as in not official just a couple of dates and in the “talking stage”. We had unprotected sex and I am now pregnant. A few weeks into being pregnant he decided to ask me to be his girlfriend, I agreed. He treats me well when it pertains to my health because I am pregnant. But after learning that I am pregnant he treats me more like a friend. I am ignored when it comes to having regular conversations and we no hang out very much. If it doesn’t pertain to the baby then we don’t really talk. I appreciate him willing to step up as a father, he comes to all my appointments, checks up on me and I know that is a form of caring which I am appreciative of. But when I approached him about not acting like a boyfriend and no longer seeing me as an individual but just as a person that is caring his child he came out and said that he “felt as though it was his responsibility to date me even though he is not ready for a relationship and does not have deep feelings for me”. I find myself not being able to properly get over him because obviously I’m still in contact with him because of the child. What is some advice to get over this. Not many people step up to the fatherly role and I can’t see myself telling him not to come to appointments or anything because I need healing space and I am extra emotional because of hormones, because the child is his just and much as it is mine.
Dangerouse
You both purposely didn’t use birth control?
You want him to love you because you need a man right now. Maybe he will legitimately grow to love you when baby comes. That would be best scenario.
But, as adults, we daily have to accept that life does not guarantee we will someday get what we want.
Sometimes in life we don’t get what we want
Try to be dignified, calm, motherly and if he is a good man, he will notice how good you are.Dangerouse
Your title says toxic, but you didn’t describe toxic behavior. You described him as being a supportive person.
What more should he be? Nothing . What is toxic about it except you think he should be your boyfriend he impregnated you.
relaxy taxi
He does not sound toxic.
Though it was an error in judgement.
Also, neither should want to be in a relationship out of “obligation”.
It’s probably best to remain detached and focused on the baby as you work out your co-parenting arrangements.
Good-luck.
Tallspicy
I suggest you end the romantic part of this. He was very clear he is not into you that way. Unfortunately, this is what happens with unprotected sex.
Better off single
you should see about getting your tubes tied…even then, unprotected sex is risky. What if you had an std and gave it to him?
Andrea
Unless a man has explicitly said he wants a child with YOU and makes plans for said child ahead of the pregnancy, then allowing yourself to get pregnant is very risky. Be thankful he is at least there for you partially.
relaxy taxi
Even if someone is regularly proactive with their health care, there’s always a risk when two people engage in consensual sex, even when you take all precautions necessary.
I am sure the OP already knows her behavior was foolish.
Colleen
Not foolish, probably on purpose.
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