How do I get a ghoster to communicate?

Let’s put the meaning of “ghosting” into context:

Excerpt taken from the “ghost dictionary”:

“Ghosting is breaking off a relationship by stopping all communication and contact with the partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate”.

“How do you get a ghoster to communicate”

Maybe try a Ouija Board?

Someone told me once, “You can’t control what other people do. You can only control what you do.” You can’t get someone to communicate. I know it’s frustrating and upsetting, but try not to take it personally, and don’t waste your precious time trying to force another human being to do what you want.

When they reach back out to you, and they will, 100% unless you flip out at them, you tell them to go F themselves for electing to end things in such a passive aggressive and cold manner.

Please note, this is reserved for people you actually dated and met.

I know a lot of people disagree here, but frankly, if you go to the effort to meet someone in person, and they reach out to you again after the date, it is rude not to respond with a brief “this is not going to work out for me”.

If someone goes ghost and you never actually met them in person, there really is no reason to give a hoot.

I agree with others that its *not ghosting* its just a man’s way of saying “I’m not interested enough to keep pursuing anything with you.”

A man is not obligated to date you, nor are you obligated to date a man; its purely voluntary, whereas either one is free to stop at any time for any reason. The man does it by no longer asking the lady out and the lady does it by no longer accepting any more dates. That’s how dating it works.

Agree with Kaye in that you are probably dating guys who are not interested in a relationship and just “playing the field” seeing what’s out there or to get an easy lay…if you don’t put out or give it out too easily then they will find one who will. This is one of the biggest risks/dangers of dating—not knowing what the man is dating for where 10-1 its for easy sex if he’s not even thinking about nor wanting to settle down.

Interestingly, I ended up in relationships when I wasn’t interested or didn’t want them! I was having a blast being single and didn’t want to be tied down which is when I had more men trying to do so haha. They really had to work for it, I’m talking several months of just getting to know them on a friendly level before I might finally give them a chance to go on an actual date with them IF I liked them enough…even married one of them.

Trust me you don’t want to settle for any guy, you want to hold out for a really good man who will treat you super well and know in your heart of hearts he’s deeply in love with you. When you meet this man you are able to relax and feel completely safe and secure in that relationship. If not, then it’s going to be a miserable relationship that will strip you of any dignity, self-worth or self-esteem you may have had prior to meeting him—no man is ever worth loving that just to be in a relationship!