Help: Guy reaches out after 3 weeks of radio silence

He didn’t say why, he just said “Hey, sorry for the extended radio silence. How have you been?” and I responded a couple hours later saying its been good/busy with work. I’m still waiting for us to reconvene and talk about whatever he wants to talk about but I also want to be prepared..

Personally I feel like radio silence is loud and clear – so unless he is trying to profess his love/like for me I don’t know what’s the point in even talking now. Unless he wants to make himself feel better and finally give me a respectful answer?

Given that you went on dates every few weeks, it is not entirely incompatible with the pace of the relationship that it would take him 3 weeks to “think”. I do however think that he is just not very serious about this relationship from the get go, and I think he will make that clear in the conversation, and will offer you some version of fwb, that in his head is a great offer, probably. I would hear him out and what he has to say, but I would be very surprised that he is going to up his game, and offer you anything worthwhile.

Thanks guys for your advice – I’m just going to play it cool for now and keep moving on about my life. If he wants to see me/say something I’m sure he can figure out how and if not well then there’s no reason why I need to be bothered by it any longer!

The real question to me is what do you want? Do you want a man that takes 3 weeks to give you an answer if he wants to try a relationship?

First of all you are out of the male – female position. He should be asking you if you want a relationship. If he isn’t asking he is not interested enough and you are over invested where he is not there yet – it is not good for you.

Men are supposed to lead the relationship otherwise you end up dangling like this. If a man is not moving forward over a decent length of time call it over for your own sake.

I would continue to move on with lessons learned as to who leads.

Sorry, but when a man reaches out after this length of time it means he hasn’t had any sex for awhile. Probably reconsidered based on your last convo and is ghosting again.

I never respond to these guys. Some of them STILL reach out a few times a year and I’m like “guy’s bored and going through his rolodex to see which woman will stroke his ego or give him some sexy time.” Delete.

Hi.

I know these posts are almost 5 years old, but I wondered what happened? I’m going through same thing myself, but this man is divorced with a 10 year-old child; so we only see each other every other weekend. But all of sudden: radio silence. It’s been a little over 2 weeks.

Just curious!