He said needed space but he keeps texting me


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    Marion

    Hello!

    So, I’ve been dating the love of my life near 5 years. We have been through everything together, all ups and downs. People always said he looked at me with adoration and love, and that have never seen this before. Last year, I went to study abroad and he is studying abroad now so we are doing a long-distance relationship.

    It is complicated, but we tried to make it work. These last couple of months, he didn’t text much and he couldn’t sleep. He told me that he was feeling depressed, because he didn’t know what he wanted in life, so he is putting into question everything including our relationship.

    He asked me for space,(we talked al night over the phone, he was saying that he couldn’t do it but he need it to and he vomited because of all the emotions). The quarantine happened, and I couldn’t distract myself from the horrible pain I was feeling of losing him. So I asked to give us a shot, and he said yes because he loved me but still wanting space.

    A couple of days went by (we didn’t talk much) and it was my birthday, he didn’t even try to make an effort for my birthday. So, we talked and I told him if he wanted space he was getting the Milky Way, and I stopped contacting him.

    So, these couple last days he is been texting me asking how I’m doing and sending me Instagram post that remained him of me.

    So I don’t know what to think! We were so great, and all of a sudden this… So can you please help me understand that’s going on and whats should I do to get him back?

    (Btw he is not cheating I know him, and he extremely loyal.)

    Thank you so much!
    Marion

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    Marion

    Sorry I forgot to mention, that I haven’t responded to any of his messages

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    Paige

    No advice from me…just a compliment on how you turned a phrase.

    “If he wanted space, he was getting the Milky Way!” That was GOOD!

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    Ames

    He needs space during a global pandemic? Give him space indefinitely

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    Marion

    It happened before the pandemic was official…

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    Zoe

    When people ask for space that means they are thinking about break up!
    Give him what he asked for!

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    mama

    He sounds very confused and is taking it out on your relationship. That hurts. :( Continue to give him his space. He needs it even if he isn’t playing by his own rules. Which is unfortunate because from my point of view it shows a lack of respect for you. Just give him his space and stop letting him use you as a security blanket after he said he was ending it with you.

    You need to consider what is best for you. The reality is that you may or may not be there for him if and when he figures things out. Consider this time for you to work on your own self, decide what you want in life, in a partner, in your future… you sound young, the world is your oyster!

    Also, trying to get someone back who has vocalized their uncertainty about you seems like trying to build a foundation on sand. You want him back to lessen your pain. Give yourself some time and give him that space he asked for.

    Sorry for what you’re dealing with.

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