February 20, 2020 at 9:58 am #785830
We’ve been dating for a month now but he is still on dating apps. It seems like he is very interested in me and we text each other everyday as well. We haven’t really spoken about being exclusive but I don’t understand why he would still be on dating apps? I lost interest in other men as soon as I liked him.February 20, 2020 at 10:59 am #785834
Sorry if I say this because you like him right? But I guess he is not serious yet about you. Being serious with someone doesn’t mean that he will be serious to you too unless the guy really likes you. If he is serious with you he will not be on a dating app or website.February 20, 2020 at 11:02 am #785835
Just because you have sworn off all men in one month doesn’t mean he is needs to stop seeing other women.
Too often women go on a few dates with a guy and are ready to commit. Keep getting to know this guy so if things do turn to exclusivity you have a clear idea of who he is.February 20, 2020 at 11:31 am #785840
Well, if he does not get on the ball in the next 3-4 weeks – 8 max, then end it. Men know pretty early if they see something possible, I find before 6 weeks usually – but give him a little extra time.
You should be multi dating and not caring until he is your boyfriend. A pair and a spare so they say.
Please please please tell me you did not sleep with him before commitment. If so, you just have to wait and see. If you have not, then simply state, I do not sleep with men when we are not focused and exploring something exclusive. I simply am not willing to sleep with men who are on match the next day. We can decide that together as we progress”. I usually say this when the sexual component is escalating. It does not men no activity, just based and slower become more important.
AND YOU SHOULD NOT BE TEXTING A MAN WHO IS NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND UNLESS HE IS VERY CONSISTENT, AND THEN STILL LESS THAN 25% OF THE TIME.
Right now he is getting the girlfriend experience without any of the work.February 20, 2020 at 12:32 pm #785846
GOD I love a good redpill dude!!! Welcome!
What did I say that was negative? I have no contempt for this man at all, he is dating, as she should be. Let me guess, it was that I said she should not sleep with him without commitment and you believe that is transnational blah blah blah? Well, it is called aligning your goals and not doing things until you are on the same page.
I simply stated she should let him lead if she is concerned about his interest (which at this point is not enough for him to commit). To ensure she does not over-invest, she should mirror him – by letting him contact her, and still being open to other men, and that you should not sleep with men without commitment if you want a real relationship. THIS IS CALLED STANDING IN YOUR VALUE. And the best part is that most make dating coaches suggest it, not just a angry woman thing. It has nothing to do with being warm, inviting and receptive (which you should be to his advances).
There is nothing to blame here – interest is or isn’t. I did not say he was a bad man, I said he is not yet committed. He could be an awesome guy and still not be able or want to commit.February 20, 2020 at 12:53 pm #785847
oops, male dating coaches, not make :-)February 20, 2020 at 2:57 pm #785855
Deleted the post from above.