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Debra
Just wanted to get a perspective from the interwebs about my last few weeks at the gym.
So I started being a regular gym goer at a local gym in town and there was this cute guy that I would see from time to time.. Never thought anything of it as at the time I was in a 4 year relationship and wasn’t paying much attention.
One day we both arrived at the same time, he started walking to the door and turned around and caught my eye.. I forgot something in the car and went back for it.. So we didn’t get a chance to talk.. When we were working out he would glance over at me and we would hold each other’s graze for a hot second.. Nevertheless that was a few months ago since then we grab quick glances at each other, I never smile and I tried to at aloof to not be too crazy by glancing at him..
Well my bf and I broke up, it was a long time coming and it whatever..
Two weeks ago we arrived at the same time again and I coughed and he said I sounded like him and we made a brief small talk as we were preparing for the door.. Cat caught my tongue as I got closer to the door and him but he broke the ice in saying my name is so so btw and I introduced myself to him as well.. When we go it I was out of ear shot but he said my name to the front desk guy and I just went on with my gym routine.. I was too shy that I avoided eye contact the rest of the gym sesh and the next day as well.. Well Friday he was there we caught each other’s glances in the mirror.. I looked down and got back into my set.. I’m terribly shy.. And that was it.. It’s been two weeks and I haven’t seen him around at the gym anymore.. Thinking he thought I wasn’t interested and moved his gym time or maybe he’s away but I can’t stop thinking about and not sure what I should do if I do see him again.. Lol any advice!?Shannon
I doubt very highly he’s avoiding you. There was nothing in your mutual interaction that would lead him to avoid you. He may be sick, injured, on a business trip. Heck, the month changed…he may have even changed gyms. I’m sure whatever is keeping him away has nothing to do with you. You just have to sit tight and see if he turns up again.
redcurleysue
If you do see him again you need to practice a question you can ask him…ask him about his water bottle or where he got his workout outfit or has he tried any other gyms in the area because you heard that this gym is the best. Whatever he says follow that up with Oh, I was asking because my brother, uncle, next door neighbor, whoever said so and so and I was wondering about the facts on that.
Then practice another question…open ended….such as “do you do this as a hobby or to get fit or what?” If he does not keep the ball in the air say, “Thank you” walk off and forget about him….but you opened the door to a conversation.
Kathy
Give him a BIG smile, say Hi, How have you been?(with the smile still on your face)
That will warm anyone’s heart… That’s what you want to do!
Maria
Smile at him next time!! Guys look for encouragement when they want to approach you. He has already broke the ice, so if you continue to act aloof he’d think you are not interested.
Make sure to look at him directly and smile and even say something, like “hi I haven’t seen you in a while…”..
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