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Romina
Long story short… We dated for three months, we decided to move on and he asked me to stay as “friends” … I zero communication for two months because I needed to let go, and out of the blue he texted… We exchanged a few texts and he disappeared for another month to text me again asking me how everything is going. Then disappeared, not even read my message. He was never like that when we were dating, he used to text me all day every day… Is he trying to send me a message with that attitude???
Romina
I think he wants me to feel what he felt from my lack of contact for a long time, little does he know that I did it to move on, not to hurt his feelings. I did like him a lot but I also wanted to cut all ties for my own mental sanity. I’m not interested on going back to him, although his contact is making me miss him. Is he trying to manipulate me so I want him back? It’s just annoying.
Miranda
Three months was pretty short. Then a month of no contact, really a short unproductive bump in your life.
Go ahead and wonder what is in his head, you have already moved on.
Ewa
I think he is trying to see if you are still interested, don’t reply if you aren’t
no point staying in touch no matter if you haven’t spoken for a month or a week.Lane
Romina, the BEST thing to do in these situations is to remove their number or block them altogether.
Men have a list of contacts and when bored, like getting his oil changed, will scroll through it and hit up numerous people to see which one takes the bait. He could have hit up say four and say all four and responded to say one or two until his oil was changed and then disappeared on the too!
It’s called ‘e-tethering’ and I advise you don’t fall into this trap from hereon. Delete, block and move on from these men is the BEST tactic you can take to avoid or end this problem altogether.
tammy
he messages you when he is at a loose end. or just generally. he did suggest that you guys can remain friends. his behaviour doesn’t indicate that he wants to get back with you. but yes he likes you and I think he messages you just generally. don’t read too much into it. just a casual hello or catching up over chat with whats happening doesn’t really indicate any interest in rekindling things. so pls do not build up any hopes. but if his messaging disturbs you or confuses you than you need to block him out.
Gabby
DEAR ROMINA (original poster):
Someone above posted in their response about “E-tethering”. I highly suggest you look into that because it sounds exactly like what your guy is doing to you. The only message he’s trying to send is that he’s trying to keep you close enough for when he wants to use you again.Verdict: total jerk. Move on from this guy.
Bananas
First off, why are you wondering about his motives? Could it be you still hope something will come from it?
Whatever he is doing certainly shows nothing productive. He is texting out of what ifs or boredom and you responded like you have time and now has you thinking about it. Also you say you dated for 3 months but was he actually a bf to be called an ex?
Point is, a man (especially one from your past) has to be putting much more effort than this to be considered worthy to be thinking about. If he isn’t then he WILL only waste your time. It’s a dead end. No point in asking what he is up to. Just ignore things like that.
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