Dating a married man

He is married & will be for a long time…

‘marriage wasn’t a big deal to him.’
Apparently neither is commitment… What he’ll do for you, he’ll do to you.

I have be there dated married man for 14 years until i moved far away cause i wasnt happy he was very controling and again only got married for religious reason.. all im going to say is Good luck with that leaving wife bs they will tell you whatever they think you need to hear

I think you should have waited until the guy is divorced. Otherwise you rushed honey he can get sexual satisfaction anywhere else trust me. If he truly is serious about your relationship he is going to wait and if he truly cares about you he wouldn’t want to put you through drama with his wife. So hold on to your goodies dear,let him sort out his divorce quietly cause am sure you are not interested in the title husband snatcher plus you said he already knows you won’t wait so what’s the hurry. Chill and don’t get tangled up in his divorce drama. Otherwise this guy is full of red flags… My take

I want to be very straight with you dear,,it’s better you stay a way for good and wait for your own..because you won’t like the end trust me…for the fact his family is very important to him and every decision he make’s it’s gonna be hard for you to fit in trust me…so is best you stay off honey…just to safe you mental and emotional strength okay….

Break it off and move on…

I so pity you, you waiting for a man to divorce his to marry you, the same another woman will be waiting for him to divorce you so he can marry her. Whether you like it or not, what to one another will do to you. There are single unmarried men but you choose someone that is married. Believe it or not, there’s no one married who decide to cheat that will tell the truth. He might truly liked you like he said. But there’s nothing that will give peace like when you marry your own man that has no baggage. Have you think about his kids? Those are one of the baggage that is waiting to scatter your own marriage with. Will they come to send time with their? Aye going to delete them out the man’s life as well?. Think twice before do something that will live to regret all your life. My take. Have a good life.

What comes around goes around trust me it is true once a cheater always a cheater.

He will not leave his wife. He is just leading u on . Further, Give him space to get divorced first if you truly believe all that he is saying.. Lastly, what goes around comes around…you will end up praying for a faithful husband when the time comes ..u can’t let yourself get emotionally involved with a MARRIED man…lady and think u will live happelh ever after… U do dirt u get dirt at least disconnect until he leaves his wife completely…otherwise anyone can keep feeding you stories ..the fact that he is worried about her well being after leaving her Is redflag number 1!!

The fact that a man is taken should be No. 1 turn-off to you. I know when I see wedding ring on a man’s finger I get turned off instantly.

either happy in his marriage or not.

As long as his a married man, what you’re doing both of you is extremely bad and disgusting.
I hate people like you,you’re the reason why prostitutes exist, homeless kids in the streets, fatherless or motherless kids exist. Its not easy being raised by a single parent or by someone who isn’t your real parent.
You’re selfish and a devil himself. Get out!!!!!

Hi, Amelia,

I am neither for being as harsh as a few other Posters; nor being as indulgent as James.

I am sorry that you have been caught-up in this tumultuous situation. We are all imperfect–and make Errors. At the Moment: you have made an Error with succumbing to this Extramarital-Affair. If you continue in this Direction: You will be making a Mistake, rather than an Error. As an Error is an Action, which may not have begun with Vile-Intentions, but ends-up being wrong or inappropriate; and a Mistake is an Action, which you are well-aware is unbeneficial or inappropriate.

I am glad that you asked for us not to judge you; as you thus Reflect that:
1: You do indeed have a Moral-Compass, which is in Working-Order.
2: You are not yet for being caught in the Vicious-Cycle of Self-Loathing.

However: If you succumb to indulging Your *SELF* in this Extramarital-Affair: You will fall prey to either:
1: Nullifying your Moral-Compass.

OR:

2: Drowning in the Vicious Cycle of Self-Loathing.

So I really do not find it wise to follow James’s Advice to enjoy the Affair for the Time-Being. Far from giving the Married-Man 100%, do your very best to Detach and Distance yourself from him. You will certainly not be able to move on fast if it does not End-Up with an Outcome that you desire.

For Clarification, when I had Advised you to make certain that HE is the one proactively undertaking all the Steps: I had meant that you should only consider a Future with him if he is actually demonstrating proactivity him in Ending his Marriage to be with you. I did not mean that you should demand action on his part.

Good Luck!

Amelia, as a long time participant on this forum I’d like you to know that all of these people who’ve thrown hate your way are not likely real or even possibly one person being mean. I’ve never seen most of these screen names until your post. So please do ignore.

I had a friend who was married and very unhappy. (They had lived together for almost three years and got married under pressure from his family and it went sour within six months.) She met another man at a party. They were instantly drawn to each other. She sat and talked with him all night (her husband was not present) and the next day he called her to apologize for talking to her for so long as he knew she was married but he did feel a strong attraction, and knew it was wrong. She told him she felt the same and she told him she was already planning to leave her marriage and to please give her 6-12 months and once she had filed and moved out she would be in touch. He agreed, and they did not communicate for almost a year at which time she had done what she set out to do. They got together and after a year were married. That was 10 years ago. The key was, she did not use the other guy as an emotional crutch and worked through the legal process and her feelings of loss and grief (which you invariably have no matter how amicable the divorce) on her own and arrived on his door step free and clear, so to speak.

So these things do work out sometimes. But honestly, the odds are not in your favor. What happens most of the time is when it comes down to actually doing the divorce, the person decides to return to their spouse. I also knew someone who was with a separated man for five years… until the day he decided to go and reconcile with his wife.

I know this isn’t what you want to hear but if I were you I’d back way off and give him space to get the divorce filed. As in have no contact for a while. You’ve got double trouble in that he has to both get the divorce and his mother/family’s approval. It’s not in your best interest to be hanging around, always available to hold his hand through this. And honestly, if he’s serious about this marriage being over and about being with you, letting him be for the same 6-12 months will be the healthiest thing for both of you. It’s important for you to keep on living your life and not waiting around on him and for this to happen that are 100% out of your control. It’s a weak position. So I know it’s hard but let him work this out and find you when the divorce is done and he has some feel for how his family will take you entering his life. You’ll both feel a lot better and you can start fresh together with integrity, if that’s what’s meant to be.