Could he be facing his own problems here or is he just not interested in me?

But why the sudden increase in communication last week.started sending me messages when he would wake up, selfies of himself, updates of his day, cute date ideas. It felt positive.

I don’t know if he’s just having a hard time with things, he’s told me he’s worrying a bit about what might happen and feels weird not having a job.

I feel like I will hear from him in a few days with some photos from his holiday. He seems to like me in person and has talked about how he enjoys spending time with me and how attracted he is to me. Even cooked me a dinner last week

He told me he doesn’t feel much empathy… and I find he’s not a super caring or affectionate person

Because he’s handsome and I feel safe around him, enjoy talking to him, good chemsitry, want the same things in life and have lots in common. I genuinely enjoy spending time with him

This has very little to do with whether or not he likes you, and in fact little to do with you at all. Anyone who admits they have low empathy is actually saying, “everything is about me and not about you.” You don’t really want the same things in a relationship if his idea of one is so one-sided. He doesn’t care about what signals he’s sending you because he’s just reacting to however he feels and whatever he needs in the moment. This isn’t because his job loss, since things were slow and confusing even before that. It’s just how he is. Don’t sell yourself short.

I’m not sure why you’re trying to make excuses for him to justify waiting around, or why you’re trying to find things wrong with yourself, but I’d pull back, live my life, try not to put all your eggs in this one basket yet. He hasn’t proven to you he’s able to be a good boyfriend yet, so if you insist on sticking around, let him take the lead, stay curious, and listen and pay attention when he tells you exactly who he is. At least you won’t end up being surprised and can decide if you want to be with someone like him. But stop telling yourself that you’re doing something wrong with he may not like. He needs to show you he’s a good partner and compatible with you.

When am confused abt a man and where the relatnship with him is heading,i usually take a step back and let the man make most of the efforts in staying in touch. I think thats a good yardstick to guage his interest in me and the efforts hes willing to take. After texting excessively hes now gone missing. He appears to be all over the place seriously in the circumstance, just step back a little and see how things flow over the next few weeks.

my narcissistic ex was cooking for me too… a lot of men can you cook and will cook for you. Let this one go

Do not remain friends with the hope and expectation something might develop in the future. I think he’d probably lose a bit of respect if you drop your standards and behave like your needs aren’t important. It reads a little desperate.

Let him go and move on. If he gets himself together and wants to seek you out for a second chance, he will.

Sorry it didn’t work out.

I’m scared he lost respect for me during our dating. I didn’t see him often but I would try to communicate my needs without pushing, as it was only early days. Things like, I like having more communication, that I’m dating with intention.

But as he’s lost his job, felt I couldn’t push and needed to be sensitive and just see where things go

Coukd his situation have prevented feelings

We genuinely had a good connection and I would like him to be my friend. He’s going to help me with my career as we work in the same industry etc.

Men never get together with the woman who spruced them up during a tough time. They move onto someone else because they can get someone better. So if you want just friends, with no hope of anything more, than great… but you are most likely walking into a I told you so from us here.

what is so special about this guy, he won’t be with you anyway, stress or not. You know why? because you are obsessed with him… would you be interested in someone who is obsessing over you in a non healthy way. I am not blaming you but he clearly told you he is not interested and you are trying to find excuses , what if, maybe this and that.
He won’t be your friend anyway because adult men are not looking for female friends , unless they just want to use them for sex.

A man has said he did not develop any romantic feelings for you. Plus he needs to Focus on his career since hes just lost his job. Lady hv some self respect. Isnt that clear enough? Stop obsessing. Its certainly not healthy nor attrctive. Accept the fact that you met a guy you liked and wld hv loved to explore a possible relationship with but it didnt happen since he didnt feel it. Many times to let a guy down gently i hv said the very same thing. But some guys used that an excuse to stay in regular touch and message way too much. In such cases, i had to start leaving their messages as unread. Pls accept the fact that this didn’t work out and move on gracefully.

girl you might have a house , good job , but it seems like you don’t understand that a no means no. rejection is not always , rarely is , about you, but you can’t force a man into loving you.