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Connie
I didn’t offer an alternative but I told him I couldn’t wait to see him again. It was either going to be Sunday or sometime next week.
It’s been better, he’s been messaging me more than once a day now. Usually he’s more into it when he’s got something to share with me or if I’ve told him about something. He doesn’t seem that into talking about random things like a TV show we’ve both been watching via text.
Maddie
Are you worried about breadcrumbing due to past guys? Is that making you look for problems? This situation sounds fine so far, and he’s not doing anything wrong. He’s not that into small talk texting, as many guys are not. But he sounds excited for things to continue to grow, was on the same page as you about seeing each other more, is following through… he’s inexperienced, so just keep saying what you want/need instead of assuming he will just know what to do.
If communication seems difficult, the emotional connection isn’t building, or you tell him what you want and he can’t follow through in a way that’s satisfying for you, then you need to reexamine compatibility and if he’s the right match for you. I do wonder a bit from your posts if you’re sure about how much you actually like him yet, or if you’re looking for more commitment from him to validate yourself first so you feel less anxious, and then you feel you’ll have more space to figure out if you even actually like him. Which is a you issue, not a him issue.
Connie
Hi Maddie, I think I have been projecting some of my bad experiences with other men on him. But when I’m with him I don’t sense any bad intent. I came back home feeling giddy and really happy after our last date, I really sensed the effort from him. I can tell he’s trying.
I think like you said I will bring up communication and see if things change rather than assuming he knows what I need.
I do really like him, he’s sweet, really close to his family and friends like I am and I can tell he cares about them, he can get a little shy which is cute, physically is my type too. I think my fear of it not working out is dominating me. But that’s to do with me and not him.
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