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Rachel
I started dating a guy I know through school, for about a month now. We see each other in our classes. When we first started talking up until about a week ago he was really affectionate, nice, and understanding. It seemed like he wanted to hang out pretty frequently and was easily accessible and I’ve slept over at his place a couple of times.
Last week we both accidentally hurt each other’s feelings with some poorly worded/timed jokes. We both apologized and he continues to talk to me at school, sit by me in class, and message me. However, I feel like there’s now this bit of distance and a lack of affection. He’s not as flirty and to me it feels like he isn’t as interested in doing things with me. It’s been a busy week of assignments and stuff, but I’m just not sure what happened.
He still reaches out to me first, it just feels different than before. I’m not sure if I hurt his feelings more than he lets on, or what. I’m trying to be patient and just be nice/positive while I give a bit of time to see how it plays out. I don’t know if I should bring up the change in behavior or give it a bit of time to see if things return to normal. I’m constantly worrying that I’m not desirable or I’ve done something wrong, or he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and I don’t want to portray that level of anxiety at all when I bring it up.
Sophia
I wouldn’t bring it up again. You’ve talked it through and both apologized to each other for what was said. He’s acting normal with you. Maybe he’s a bit uncomfortable by it but he’s still here and trying to get over it.
Be your usual self and continue on with the mindset of – you’ve talked it out and everything’s fine.
What you want is for the event to fade away. You don’t want to bring it up again to talk about it – again. Guys HATE that. Plus you’ll be bringing it back to the front of his mind. You don’t want that either.
Act normal. Let it fade. Forget about it.
Just give it more time to smooth itself out.
Raven
Let it go… You are the one seemingly creating a chasm-
Vanessa
Hi, I have the same situation I haven’t dared in awhile, I meet a guy over a month ago. Things were moving pretty fast, He always initiated out outings we were having fun with each other. We would talk everyday and see each other at least twice a week, like I mentioned things were moving fast and I was drawn to that. One day we had a discussion about, and i Said something that maybe I shouldn’t had said. He came out of a toxic relationship, and I triggered something because later on he explained that he needs to take things slow, that he still likes me but he wants to take things slow and asked me for some time to think. Which I have no contacted him and neither has he. I never meet anyone who has asked me for space or time.
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