He says sometimes he loves me and sometimes he doesn't know

This really isn’t fair to you. He has to figure this out for himself, and acting like everything is normal is not going to solve the problem. Ask him for a couple of weeks of space, with NO contact, for both of you to clear your heads. Take the time to reflect on the relationship, what you truly want, goals for the future, get in touch with your feelings, etc. Ask him to do the same. Then, after that time, meet in person and have a heart-to-heart to sort all of this out.

I will say this: When my ex started saying he “wasn’t sure how he felt,” it was the beginning of the end. Within a week he had ended it, saying he just didn’t feel the spark anymore. Prepare yourself because unfortunately, this may be coming. But try the above suggestion first, it might help both of you to take a step back and get clarity on the situation.

This sounds like depression talking, because it’s so fuzzy and random. But… can you handle being with someone like this?

Tell him you need some time to think – at least a week or two – and do not contact him or respond to him. This is a difficult situation and the message I am getting is that he’s not capable of loving you with his whole heart at the moment. It could be depression or simply that he’s not as in love as he would like – either way, do you want a relationship like that? Maybe while you are taking your time, he will get himself together, but this sounds like a situation that will become exhausting if you continue. I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

First, this is the first time I’ve posted to a forum. Is there a way to get notifications when others post to this, or do I need to bookmark this page and check it ever so often?

My bf and I have been together for 6 months. It seriously was out of the blue. I knew he was feeling down recently and was making changes to try and be happy. After this conversation and him apologizing, he asked me if I thought he was bipolar. I told him I had no idea and didn’t feel comfortable diagnosing him. This conversation came up because I asked him to see a doctor. He is currently on depression and anxiety medications. I asked him to talk with his doctor and tell his doctor what was going on to see if maybe there needs to be an adjustment. As weird as this sounds, when we discussed this topic, I was more worried about him than myself. I struggle with depression and anxiety (just my luck, right?) and so I jumped straight to the thought of if he doesn’t get help what if he took his own life? Dramatic? Yes, but I do think he should discuss his situation with his doctor.

I am a strong person, and personally would stick around for a medical condition. However, the space for a week or two sounds like a good idea. Although, loving him and the thought of loosing him makes me feel all icky and sad. I couldn’t think of another way to explain it.

I feel like this situation is complex, because I have never dated someone who struggles with the same daemons as myself. Although, since everyone handles them differently it feels so foreign to me at times. With all the relationship books I’ve read, I’ve pretty much narrowed it down to I don’t know anything about men other than they like space and feeling like winners.

I am going to try and read up on being in a relationship with someone depressed. I have never been on this side of the relationship before and maybe it’ll help? I will also consider the taking space for a week or two. If anyone has anymore advice/thoughts/experience similar to this or dating someone with a mental health disorder, please feel free to comment on this post. :)

Well , this may not help . But ive got the same situation going on here but let me tell you something , he hates relationships because of his past experience with relationships , but he isnt bipilar or anythinf i believe in psychology so much , but whats goin on here , i dont think that it is related to a psychological disorder, so i think you just have to wait and go with the flow for the next coming weeks and see what happens next . The only thing i know you should do and thats what am doing is not getting attached to him so much . Try your best to keep yourself busy with doingg the stuff you love to do .

Im struggling with this type of situation right now. Hes loves me more than anything and I love him more than anything. Him and I have been together for a year, and one day he stopped feeling the same. He just said he was bored of the relationship like everything was like a routine and he just didnt feel it. And a few weeks after that break up we had a day of fun together. He started to fall back in love with me again after that, and we got back together and its been so amazing for months, and today he told me he wasnt in a relationshipy mood which meant he wasnt feeling like he could be in the relationship anymore when not too long ago I was all he wanted. It was a few days ago that he adored me so much and I could see the love in his eyes and he could not stop holding me and telling me all these beautiful things straight from his heart. We are madly in love, well, only I am now. Of course, he still loves me, he just all of a sudden doesnt love me as much anymore and im so lost and confused and ive been hurting and crying and idk what to do. Its weird. And its this thing he goes through, I almost feel like its a mental problem. But idk if it is or not. He just broke up with me today. It hurts like hell. I am a very faithful committing person and I wait for him. I waited for him since the last break up. Im really in love with him. I just dont understand how this can happen. He always comes back to me though. He doesnt undertsand why he feels this way either and it just controls his mind, makes him think that he cant do it anymore. Over some time he starts missing me and wants me.He told me he doesnt understand what this feeling is, but he gets it and hes scared of it and im scared of it too. Idk what to do to keep it from happening. He wanted to just have a break, and im going to see if maybe some time will help but im worried that he will just keep breaking up with me again and again. Ive never felt this way about any other guy, as many as ive met. He is really the one I want to spend the rest of my life with but with this feeling that he gets after some time, how can I do it? Idk how he could be depressed either, I know that he just went away with some friends yesterday and had a great time and he came back not feeling the same as I feel. Maybe whenever he has fun without me he feels like hes better off without me. I feel like he forgets that love feeling, he forgets how to love me, and i just dont know how to stop it. I went online to look for answers but im still so confused, and im so scared. Im so torn. And im just hoping this feeling does not last long because eventually he falls back in love, but this is all so painful to have to go through and I want to stop this. Him and I are also only 15 so we dont have much to do, along with the fact that I have protective parents. But I dont think age matters besides being under the teen years, I know im in love and weve been together for such a long time and I dont know what to do. Im young and I shouldnt be all over a boy like this wanting so badly to be with him forever, but I cant get enough of it. Forever is a long time but, I cant shake him off. We both think of eachother as perfect and our relationship is so perfect, until he starts feeling like this. Honestly ive never wanted anything so badly. Please someone help.