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  • #575400 Reply
    Her majesty

    I am in the same situation right now. I am torn between two lovers… my husbanf and my bestfriend for 11 years. I didnt want it to happen but it did. Today I made a really painful decision, to end the affair and focus on my marriage. I stopped all the communication with my bestfriend but Im telling you the pain is too much that I couldnt stop crying. But I know he will thank me one day for doing it. He deserve more than what I can give him. I care, respect and love him enough to let him go. I do not him to be the the OTHER MAN when he can be THE ONE to a single woman. Think it out carefully and do not make a mistake that you will regret in the future.

    #582612 Reply
    Mary

    I can relate to this woman, I just ended a 2year relationship, I had to do it for the sake of both of us. I have a good husband and dating this other guy made me realize I had the best husband anyone can ask for. I also realized that this other guy had so many emotional issues that I knew I could not deal with at the end, he doesn’t know how to deal with real issues he prefers to shut me off by not answering my calls for about 2-3weeks. I also realized he started seeing this other married woman, which made me realize he’s addicted to married women. Though it was a bitter breakup, he did intact save my marriage. My sex life was lacking prior to the affair and now it t it’s better that with him.

    #586951 Reply
    Aileen

    This is truly a wonderful response and I too have been in this situation.
    You do owe it to the spouse to either try at reconciling the marriage and fixing what maybe wrong or deciding that to leave is the better option releasing your husband from a marriage that he can go find someone else who truly loves him.
    I am not judging but everything that this lady above has said rings true. Most people I speak to and read about similar events all day the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. People are not what they really seem and when the truth is finally seen disappointment happens all round. The other person caught up in this triangle will also get their heart broken and it’s better to be a lonely heart than a broke one.
    I made my decision to terminate all contact even though I had very deep feelings for the other man and he truly did fall hard for me, I realised before it was all too late that it was an unfair and cruel thing I was doing to my spouse and a deception to the other man giving him false dreams of being together. The biggest mistake of my life however I have learnt from this mistake and never to be repeated. Concentrating 120% now on my future with my husband who is a good man and never deserved to be hurt.
    All the best

    #586954 Reply
    Astrid

    I am not going to be judgmental. You are having an affair obviously because something is not right in your marriage. I had been through that myself. I do believe a single man can fall in love with a married woman. It’s simply a man falls in love with a woman and that woman happens to be married. As long as you are DONE with your husband. If you still love your husband, then this is not going to work. I can also understand that there are situations you don’t love your husband anymore, but you cannot divorce your husband right now, such as you have kids involved. But if you are DONE with your husband and have no more feelings for him, then I think it is possible. If you and your guy “truly love” each other and he can wait for you, then you two can be together once you are in a situation that you can divorce your husband. This is not going to be a easy smooth journey! You have to decide for yourself how strong this love is and if it’s worth it to go through all the obstacles and barriers at this moment cuz there will be a lot of lies, deceits, and secrets!

    #594686 Reply
    Banana

    In reply to Assi
    I wonder how you are now and what happened with you?
    I have a similar situation and looking for some words of advice.

    #594689 Reply
    L

    And you are with a married man because all the single ones ran out?

    #595787 Reply
    Beena

    No a single man will never love a married woman how much ever truly woman loves her even if u give your life for him still he sill not. I was unhappy in my mariage i met this ugly poor orphan man i supported him so much. I have been through all this. He not only used me thoroughly took money from me and then rudely threw me out of his life and married a beautiful young girl. MY situation now is so miseable no one in this world had been so bad with me everyday i think of him curse him i want to kill him chop him into pieces and he is enjoying his life. I had to go to psychatist for treatment stopped getting sleep its been one and half years still there is not a single day i dont think of him. its my advise to all those woman never do the mistake waht i did.

    #595809 Reply
    Been there done that

    Yes a single man can fall in love with you. But would it work out great? NO! Are you thinking of leaving your husband eventually? Why cheat and be an unfaithful wife when if you aren’t happy, you can divorce him. No matter what the situation is it is unethical to cheat period!

    #596294 Reply
    Beena

    I stopped loving my husband and was stuck to him for kids i wanted kids to grow up little then I will leave him everything was fine till i went to court to file divorce with my husband as i was unhappy with him and his real face came out. He threw me out of his life so rudely and with in 3 months got married to such a beautiful girl he is so happy enjoying his life with her and i was like…. couldnt believe he was using me for sex and money. and look at his guts after getting married he contacted me again telling he loves me and miss me which later on i found out he wants more money so he thinks he can still fool with his sweet words. how sweet he use to talk everything was lie the saddest part is i got attached to him removing him fm my life was the tuffest job for me its been more than one and half years there is not a single day i dont cry thinking of him. i want to kill him this revenge feeling is killing me i m not able to enjoy my life and now i m not able to trust anyone else. how to stop thinking of him? how to take out this revenge feeling? i m living in a conservative society cannot talk to anyone about my problem. what to do?

    #598648 Reply
    Damita k

    Ok here we go first of all Hello and I love the name
    Ok this is rough I been Married 14 hrs to a great man mr wonderful college degree times 2 I met him on black planet 14 yrs ago and we got married in 2005 .He took in my two kids like his own . So fast forward I met a guy accidentally pure accident he was in prison for murder ok he paid his debt .He very nice guy so I fell into this okie dok trap and had a affair with him for 2yrs . He stays pillow to post works as a dishwasher makes 275 a week sleeps on the floor at a friends house I be right there at times telling my hubby I have to work Nites . So here lately he’s the side boy has been acting very funny ? If it’s someone else ok he has that right but he treating me like I don’t exist when I tell u things I did for this man .Like sacrifice my marriage for one I let him drive car my hubby paid for he damage some then he got it towed twice for drinking n driving so who had to get it out yup hubby . No it’s the sex no not money I guess I was trying to fill this void and it’s not working ?BUT ITS SEEMS I CANT LET GO SCARED THAT THE NEXT CHIC HE TREAT BETTER I DONT KNOW WHAT I THINK ILL LOSE AND WONT GAIN ANYTHING EITHER SO I GUESS IM ASKING FOR YOUR HELP ON WHAT TO DO PLEASE KEEP THIS PIRATE AND PLEASS DONT THINK IM CRAY CRAY

    #598651 Reply
    L

    Your afraid he might treat another woman better, but not that he might kill you?

    #598715 Reply
    Raven

    Roll with the troll…

    #598727 Reply
    Nat

    Geez, if this is not a fake post bite me. lol

    I think you should also donate your kidney to him. Or wait, no need, simply wait until he beats it out of you.

    #598755 Reply
    Crisula

    Daniela,

    You’re unavailable (perfect for him)
    You’re available for sex (perfect for him)

    He has to put in minimal effort to get sex…says sweet things and that he ‘cares'(easy for him)

    He also has loads of other women,in troubled marriages, as well as you..
    (major ego-boost for him)

    Daniela…cut him off for your own good and self-respect

    Follow your gut

    #598756 Reply
    Crisula

    this is from 2015…wtf???

    #602920 Reply
    anin

    Ok. I know it’s an old thread but still very insightful. I was the husband cheated on. I uncovered the affair. It was terribly paunful. We both decided to attend couples therapy. Let me say, Most woman will cheat because their needs arent being met by their husband. And often we dont even know what our needs are. Voice ur needs and its importance. Otherwise uncover it via therapy. Work on fullfilling each others needs. And u will both end up truly happy.
    The guy she cheated with is a wreck but I feel no pity for him. He should not have approached a married woman. We have moved forward in leaps and bounds but his still stuck in the “affair”. Its nearly 3 yrs since now from 10yr marriage and we were never happier. But making the changes to meet each others needs wasnt easy. Both people need to be 200% committed.
    For the woman thinking of or who are cheating please take my advice. You robbing urselves from true happiness. Work on what u have and I hope ur husbands will be just as committed.
    Good luck!

    #609266 Reply
    Maine

    OK here we go, I’m the husband and my wife is having an affair with a co-worker whom she only knew a few months. She makes up stories just to be with him talks for numerous amount of time on the phone with him from my understanding he’s single with no kids and lives alone on the other hand we have 4 boys and just purchased our first home together.we’ve been together for 13 years and married for 8 years the problems started when she started this new job all of a sudden I don’t do this I don’t do that she having mixed emotions she is mentally tapped out she doesn’t want to talk to me it’s almost like we are roommates I recently asked for a divorce she refuses constantly saying she doesn’t want it. She loves me so much when asked about the affair she denies it I’m trying to look pass this whole thing but I can’t I can’t trust her. So my question is, is there a possibility they could be falling in love with each other or just enjoying the sex and conversation hoping they will not get caught.could he r early want her knowing she married with 4 kids pls. help

    #609342 Reply
    L

    Four pregnancies in 8 years? If you didn’t stop her from popping out more kids, she wouldn’t have time for another man.

    #609355 Reply
    Crisula

    Maine,
    She works with him and has formed an emotional connection with him.
    A far as I’m concerned, she’s probably much more into him than he is with her. I think she is bored at home…he gave her some complements..”you look nice today”..blah blah and she has developed a big crush on him…she likes the attention. No…chances are he wouldn’t have a serious relationship with a married woman who has 4 children..what single guy would want all that drama?

    How do you know she has had sex with him? If it continues like this…it may just happen.
    I would put my foot down …if she is serious about wanting to stay married and her love for you…she shouldn’t hesitate to cut ALL contact with this guy….even to the point of looking for a new job.

    #609356 Reply
    Crisula

    She also needs to grow up…she has four kids.
    She’s putting her needs before theirs.
    She wants her cake and eat it too
    Sorry lady…doesn’t work that way..you make a choice between your family or a temporary fling.

    #610370 Reply
    Anon

    What this guy is doing is exactly what she needs. Woman like to be complimented and feel cherished. She is trapped, she doesn’t want to lose you or this guy. I suggest marriage counselling. You need to start “dating” her from over and keep “dating” her forever more. Affirm and compliment her all the time. Discover what her needs are via therapy and do ur best to meet those needs forever more. She won’t ever have this void and allow somebody else to fill it. She will be fullfilled.
    That is just the way it works in all relationships.
    My wife of 9 yrs slept with her lover in our marriage bed, she was literally his sex doll for 7 months. Yes, I know all the details. We have two kids. Today after therapy and a lot wiser I am moving forward with her. I fullfill her needs all the time and you know what, I am happier than ever before. We also have sex nearly everyday now.
    This can be fixed but u need to really put in the hard work to fix it. Remember this, “Passion and rewards lie on the other side of hard work”.

    #615628 Reply
    Kennedy Brown

    Why would you even want a single man to fall in love with You? You are not only a cheating wife….You are a selfish one at that!

    #643286 Reply
    Christine

    Yes a single man can fall in love with a married woman. It depends on her status and if she can do and go places as a girlfriend can do.

    #647496 Reply
    I am jafor

    i want a girlfriend. i am a single man

    #647497 Reply
    I am jafor

    yes

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