Why do men always talk about themselves

Lol, fact is, truly there are men who understand and empathize and make it a point to listen and really focus on others. In my life of 56 years, I have met about five. That is a woman’s lot. To understand that men are pretty much stupid. So find one that’s got a higher IQ than average, and you will have something to work with!!!

Men talk about themselves for the same reason women talk about romance, dating, relationships, marriage and babies.

Just don’t date men like this. Dating is about weeding out bad matches, isn’t it. As soon as you realise that you are having a ‘me, me, me’ conversation, you’re gone. I think you were just unlucky, there are plenty of men who aren’t like this.

Actually, I’ve had people do this on dates and at work. It’s a complete one-sided conversation. They ramble on, not every giving you a chance to talk. I always feel like I should be getting paid like a psychiatrist would.

Actually PH, I have heard this before. My dad died 6 months after retirement. Never used all that pension he had. My mom died a year after him. I work with a man who is retiring, and he is planning to get a part time job. It’s like men have to have a purpose, like career, job, etc. old women can sit around and do nothing but watch soap operas and gossip.

Hi Sara – this was my ONLY experience of dating too. And I went on lots of dates with lots of different men. I find it so rude. But for it to be so common, I think it must be how their brains are wired, or a consequence of how boys are raised. Often mothers spoil their sons, making the world revolve around them, and this follows through to manhood. I don’t know what the solution is unfortunately.

Had sumilar experience… Texted for a few days before having a phone conversation. He had been talking about himself the majority of the time and asked about 10 times “you know what I mean? ” I think it is his habit to keep asking that when he talks, but that’S really annoying. I interrupted him saying do you always talk this much? He thought that was a compliment and kept on talking. I eventually cancelled our date. Do not want to meet him at all.

Conversation is a skill. It takes practice to get better and some people are better at it than others.

While both men and women can be awful at conversation, I do think guys *in general* get the short end of the stick; women are expected to be able to socialize in society and have more support in that area, men don’t often have that. They have their career and maybe a hobby they’re supper passionate about and that’s all they have.

Ooft you dont need to ask why you just need to move on. I havent met many like this. You just been unlucky but then again I would have been out of there after half an hour instead of wasting 3 hours of your life on him. First date is always better as a quick meet and greet. x

This is where you learn how to break into a conversation. It is a skill. Sometimes men are just nervous and talk and talk. Break in a shift the conversation with things like, “I know what you mean about that…and did you hear the Royals won today?” Shift, shift, shift.

I just chatted up a man in a shop and he asked me out and we’ve seen each other for 16 hours over two days. Not sure why he even wanted me with him, as he talked non-stop about himself his hobbies his friends what he liked. No questions about what I liked or what I wanted. I am quiet person but I would like to be able to be asked about myself on a date….he also repeats himself and seems totally unaware hes doing it. I was at his house relying on him to take me home as I have no car. I had to ask hi three times to go home and said I was unwell. Unwell from listing for hours on end. Lol. I was totally exhausted if honest as I’m a bit of an introvert and he sucked the energy out of me .
felt totally left out as the if I wasn’t there and that he was just enjoying the sound of his own voice. Sadly I do not think I’ll be able to see him again.
I had a very messy home filled with memorabilia old antique stuffed papers hundreds of CDs ornaments books everywhere I think he has ‘issues’so I’m not going to even get involved.

I’ve had similar experiences with men. They whine about problems & expect you to sit there & listen. No questions about my life. I think, like, who cares about your woes?

I rarely follow up again with these types of characters & would not have sat there for 3 hours!

It shows right off the bat that they are very self-centered. You will complain until the end of time. Better to get rid of them at the start. They will suck the life out of you!