why didn't he tell me?

From all your posts that I’ve read. I’m telling you right now. He is FREE LOADING off of you! Trust me!!! Been there and done that. You aren’t his girlfriend. You’re his Sugar Mama! and he’s gotten wayyy too comfortable. He sounds like a huge loser. I’m sorry. You deserve so much better. Let him go as soon as possible otherwise this will just continue, you’ll fall into a deeper depression, you’ll get more hurt and you’ll lose more of your money and self esteem. And in the end you’ll see what a big waste it all was. Let him go! You can do it! :)

Dear Emelie,

im happy that you realized what a douchebag he is, he only takes advantage of oyu.
wehn he says he loves you he doesnt really mean it he says it so youll get pity on him and permit him to stay. you grant him a very very comfortable life. i think you know hell never pay you back

now I understand its difficult to make him leave only by yourself

Please you have to take action NOW

solution 1: call a male friend who will come over and force him out /kich him out with you.

solution 2: call the police and make him leave. it is luckily your hoome.

good luck!

Janet…did you not read the first few posts? This is not just OP reading old messages to a previous partner…for 7 months he lied about his contact with her and stated that he was still in love with his ex and how she was more special then OP who is/hopefully was his current gf?

Terrible advice.
Thou I will agree with the OPs self esteem.

This will not get better OP and you know this. The hard part is not his behaviour but finding the strength to leave.

I just don’t want this man in my life, he makes not happy, he only pleases himself, how can someone be so cold? He sits in my house eats my food, and delete his facebook search history. I’m not stupid anymore. I told him to leave and he wants to leave. I just feel so sad, hurt and used, i blame myself. I thought he was able to love me … but he’s too messed up with his weed and gambling and debts :/

Emelie,

Im happy yuo told him to leave but I got the impression that you told him this half-heartedly and that he’s still at your home

Luckily you see that he’s a douchebag and he cannot give you anything and doesnt love you

so what are you waiting for??
Get this parasite out of your house right now! you cannot wait! as everyone suggested call the police or some friend but he has to leave! no deadline necessary it has to be right now!

Hi emelie,
We know you are hurting, but i hope you can get into action mode. No more thinking about how you thought you loved him, but a plan to get rid of him. You’re not his mommy, so there is nothing keeping you from just letting him pack his stuff and let him sort it out. You need to take care of yourself now, time to heal, and you will forget about this guy.
Take care

If it hurts it ain’t love…..You doubt you could ever trust him….Ever!!!!! I sure couldn’t or wouldn’t..Chin up lady..You are way more worthy of someone other then him.

Wow Emelie
I am so proud of you!!!

This was the best decision you could make!!
I am so happy that he’ll be leaving soon and you can start a new life.

I understand that you are hurting it’s completely normal.
But the hardest part is done you’ll get him out of your home.

And it’s completely normal that you are very sad to lose him you did so much for him!

Some time ago someone posted something here on this forum and it said that “The person who invests in the other falls in love , not the person who receives” and it’s true. If you do a lot for a person you prove your love and you automatically involve him/her in your life.
The other person who only takes and takes and doesn’t give doesn’t fall in love.
They feel pleased but they havent invested anything. I

In a happy relationship this ratio has to be 50%
and this man was only taking and taking.

You can be happy that this selfish parasite is out of your life now!

i know it’s not easy but keep going!

Finf some things to do that make you happy. Try new sports etc.
(why not a dancing class to meet some nice men?)

But take your time to heal.
Maybe cook yourself a nice meal, and think about the wonderful shopping you can do with the money you save on not spending it on him anymore ;)

It will take some time but you will be happy again soon!
Hugs <3

I’m so proud of you emelie. I was worried you might got stuck in feeling sad and betrayed, but you took control. Awesome. Yes you will be lonely for a while, but also the feelings of betrayal, anxiousness, hurt will go away, because he is out of your life. You only need to come across a man like this once, to never fall for it again.
Take care sweet heart, you will be fine.