Why am I feeling like this??

You need to get over it. With weddings its not the person that is inviteds choice its the B&Gs and whilst you’ve met and see no reason not to be added to the guest list, weddings are a very personal event and the B&G may want only close family to attend – you are making assumptions that they would be cool with you piggy backing when actually you just don’t know. Its awkward for him to ask for a plus one. It was arranged before you met him and you’ve known about it for ages so why pipe up just days before the event to say you have an issue?

You are making this a much bigger deal than it needs to be and you are choosing to make yourself unhappy and punish him in the process and its just not fair.

Stop being short with him even if you are feeling pi**ed off and slighted. Behave with good grace and be your normal self as you will regret causing bad feeling about this and jeopardising what you guys have.

Think of it this way – in a year’s time will this matter? In 2, 3, 4 years? I can guarantee it won’t.

Stop your hissy fit and go back to being the woman he loves not a needy, petty girlfriend- it only hurts you!

You were not invited. People can’t just decide to bring a plus one if they werent on the invitation. The bride and groom have spent a lot of time narrowing down the guest list and making the table arrangements etc… it’s really presumptuous of you to think you can just tag along and it’s also putting him in a really awkward and uncomfortable position . Are you really that unaware of how these things work?
You’re being childish and creating problems. He has apologized (for what I don’t know) and now you’re being passive aggressive with short texts. I see a break up in the near future if you don’t learn how to behave like an adult.

Please just get a grip. This sounds like a great guy and a great relationship. He can’t do any more than listen and apologise. You are heading for big trouble in your relationship if you persue this further. You’ll wreck his time as the wedding as he’ll feel bad and he’ll resent you for it. Stop. You doing very precious

Weddings ARE boring and you’re putting too much importance on it.

I’m sorry but you are out of bounds on this one! He was invited by his friends before you knew each other; whereas a couple plans their wedding around the number of people they invited and who RSVP’d yes.

My eldest son was married last month where he and his fiance’ intentionally wanted to keep their wedding very small and intimate so they intentionally didn’t invite certain family members, and friends in order to keep it that way. Well my youngest son was talking to one of his cousin’s on FB, about three weeks before the wedding, and asked if she was invited to the wedding? She responded “what wedding?” At which point he realized he messed up and shouldn’t have said anything to her. Let’s just say his brother gave him a stern warning to keep his mouth shut and not invite anyone else they didn’t invite to the wedding.

This put my eldest son and his fiance in a difficult spot as they had already planned for a specific number of people, based on those they knew were attending after sending the invitation’s out. They now had two extra family member’s that wanted to go as his cousin also has a younger sister (their Uncle’s two daughters) only because my youngest son opened his big mouth. They now felt forced (obligated) to add them, not because they asked them to attend but because of someone (his brother) who didn’t have the right to invite extra people to their wedding.

I’m sorry but its rude to invite someone after the invitations have been sent out and RSVP’s have come in indicating the number attending as that’s what a couple plans around. Since you’ve never planned a wedding its easy for you to say it shouldn’t be a big deal but it could be a very big deal to the couple as it adds extra planning and costs; whereas if not only your BF but others kept asking to bring someone with them it would throw their wedding plans out of whack. Weddings are stressful enough and to add more stress to people you don’t even know is rude.

The problem I see is that you are so focused on your own needs, such as your BF proving to you how “special you are to him” that you can’t see how it affects other people, such as forcing your BF into a tough spot of having to ask his friends if you can come along just so he can validate your feelings. Nor do you seem to care how it might affect the couple’s wedding plans because what if its just not your BF but 10 others who now want to bring someone they have no relationship with to the wedding. Its their wedding, not yours, and if they wanted to invite you they would have. If they don’t extend an invitation to you personally, then it means you are not invited.