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    So my ex and I recently broke up in thanksgiving. We were together for 2 years and we love together still. We are still in the process of figuring that out. But this isn’t the first time he “broke up” with me. I’m in my early 20s and he’s in his late 20s. A little background… we met through work but then mutual friends formally introduced us. Fast forward we both had recently gotten out of a long term relationship when we started dating. Everything was amazing and then it started to dwindle down. Resentment, no trust, communication. I support and love him unconditionally. And this whole relationship I’ve been the one fighting for it and his first instinct is to run away. He told me he never wanted to be in a relationship, he’s okay losing me, he doesn’t want to be dependent on me anymore. He’s making a big permanent decision based on temporary feelings. He’s come to pease with this break up and here I am in denial and refuse to accept this. I can’t put our relationship into words but this man saved my life and I won’t lie we’ve had our issues that I tried to fix but seems like I was the only man be fixing them. I gave him a suggestion of what if I move out for 5 months and we reevaluate everything then. I don’t want to give up my home. But unfortunately he didn’t agree to that. I need guidance.

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    he may like you, love you, care for you. but he can’t be in a relationship. he’s not ready to be in a relationship. you already know that for your relationship to work both should want to be in one. unfortunately, that’s not the case here. you have tried everything. and it’s still not working out. you don’t really need guidance. cause you already know what you must do. you did everything but nothing worked. So time to admit to yourself that this is not working out, accept his decision to end it and walk away with grace. block him everywhere. stop contacting him. you have just had a breakup. feel sad cry over it if needed talk to friends. and then brush off and move on. do not keep in touch, do not beg, do not try to persuade him to stay with you. accept his decision to break up with dignity and let him go.

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    Honesty Rocks

    Sounds like this guy is wanting out and you are clinging on for dear life. He is not the only man on the planet you know. Let him go. Hes not all that. You will struggle for a few weeks but hey it is for the best you are now free to meet the guy that would never let you go or take you for granted. Isnt that exciting. x

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