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    Tallspicy

    You exclusivity is over now.

    #788293 Reply
    T from NY

    I am not trying to be unkind – but if you have to ask if the agreement of exclusivity is over with a man who’s totally fading — you are not in any shape to be dating. If you’ll carefully look back over every post you made you’re always asking what you should do in reference to HIM instead of YOU.

    No there’s no need for anymore talking!
    Take control of your life and of course the exclusivity is void because why would YOU allow a guy to say y’all are a couple when he’s not even talking to you?!

    This is how A LOT of men end relationships because they are too chicken crap to hurt a girl or they’re lazy and selfish and don’t want the drama. Whether he was a rebound or not is seriously not as important as you realizing how much you give your own power away in relationships. That is what is causing you to lose peace. Not a guy.

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    Maggie

    I would say there is definitely some good advice here, and I agree with a lot of it, but only take what works for you. I find it odd how people are projecting so much onto you about your current state of mind. Only you really know what’s going on mentally and we can’t get a full picture from a post. If you’ve dealt with anxiety for a while, I’m guessing you have a therapist? If not, I would suggest finding one who is a good fit for you. They can give you much better advice than people on a forum. They’ll know you and your current mental state and can provide professional, comprehensive, and personal advice. Plus, many insurance companies are waiving copays right now.

    Also, you don’t need to avoid dating until you reach some perfect state of self-love or calm. We’re human, we all have issues or baggage or areas we can improve on emotionally. And that’s not going away. Of course we can work on our emotional issues, and it’s important that we do. But we can also find healthy partnerships where people support each other as they work through their issues and grow. Growth is a lifelong experience, and if you want a long-term relationship…stuff will come up no matter how solid you were prior to dating. Life throws curveballs. The important thing (when it comes to relationships) is finding a partner who will stand with you; and, when it comes to yourself, making sure you have the self-assuredness to take care of yourself without a partner.

    Some resources I’ve really liked and would recommend: Rising Woman, The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson, and Nu Mindframe on YouTube. I also just heard about the book Calling in the One by Katherine Woodward Thomas after watching a lecture by her that I really liked.

    Keep prioritizing yourself and find someone who really knows you to be your advocate and to give advice.

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    Tallspicy

    No one loves themselves all the time. But if you cannot date with a base level of healthy, you will not attract good men. You will accept a fade and focus on them and not you. And you won’t accept good men and no matter what you won’t feel safe. Safe is an inside job.

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