Should I respond to his message after weeks of silence

You just have to figure out what you want in general. Are you solely dating to find a relationship or are you open to connections that will reveal themselves and what they are over time? As you described there have only been a couple of dates. Way too early for you to have expectations in my book, even if you have known him for years.

He might like you a lot, but not enough to be in a relationship. Or you could be the Queen of Sheba and he just isn’t looking to be in a relationship right now. OR he’s just living his life, playing cool and seeing where you two end up.

I am not in agreement of asking men – straight out of the gate – what they’re looking for. You know why? Because most men live in the moment. And a girl they have zero connection or bond with asking that question exerts pressure. If women are PATIENT and LISTEN men usually reveal what they want and how they feel about you within just a few dates. They can’t help it. They usually just spill if you relax and attempt to get to know them and see if you would even wanna be with the dude in the first place!

If a guy hasn’t made it clear what he’s looking for by the 3rd or 4th date — I will volunteer what I’m looking for and then just sit quietly. They usually reciprocate. Relax. Enjoy men! You don’t have to sleep with them. Or give them big reasons why you won’t. I just say (when it gets to that point) — “Ya. I’m super attracted to you. But I don’t sleep around so I do it when I’m ready and I’ve developed something with someone.” OR sometimes I do it on the first date (though rarely) and I DONT ALLOW myself to have expectations. I’ve had two long-term relationships with sex on the first date. I’m not encouraging that! My point is — if a guy likes you, he’ll make it clear. Train yourself to only really like guys who show you consistent attention. It can be done.

I wouldn’t like the only texting once or twice a week either thing. But he’s been busy. He’s been traveling. And he thought to contact you when he returned. He may not be willing to jump into something and wanted to be free while he is away. He might be hoping for eventual sex. YOU control that. So if you like him — respond happily! Go out and enjoy him. Then keep busy doing other things. Don’t make him your only egg in the basket. He might not be the one — but he might be a lot of fun.