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LaFrance Thibodeaux.
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Ryan
Hi All
So the girl I have been seeing for a long time now will be spending time round my house soon. We are not in an official relationship but we are exclusive and are on the way to being in one.
We both have traditional values when it comes to relationship but she also has them about sex. As I am not her official boyfriend, she will not have sex with me.
We have talked and both said we are attracted to eachother in all ways so it’s not like that attraction isn’t there. I have been patient with her hoping she’d come around to the idea. Don’t get me wrong, if it was all about the sex, I would of looked for someone else.
However, we both are attracted to one another and all the rest of it, having sex at this point in our relationship I feel would only benefit both of us but I am not really sure how to make it happen. At the end of the day, I’ll never put pressure on it, but I would also like to experience that with her.
Any advice on how to deal with this?
Tallspicy
I am I hate to be harsh but did you not read what you wrote? She will not have sex with you until you were her official boyfriend. So if you wanna have sex with this girl, then decided if she is your girlfriend or leave her alone. To be honest there should be no difference between exclusive and girlfriend. There is some silly semantics that mean nothing. You’re either into her and don’t wanna date other people and grow together or you’re not. Trying to convince her to have sex with you before she is ready and she has made it very clear when she will consider it makes you kind of and ahole.
I don’t know how long you’ve actually been dating, but if you haven’t made her your girlfriend by kind of by 12 weeks, you’re lucky she hasn’t dumped you. I’d really don’t understand why it is that she’s not your girlfriend. What’s keeping you from that level of commitment?
Tallspicy
Just to be clear, she doesn’t think it would benefit her to have sex before you are her boyfriend, so saying it’s to both of your benefit is laughable, it’s to your benefit.
cupcake
Why aren’t you her official boyfriend?
Jo
My pet hate is people thinking they know better than another person what is right for them. She told you she doesn’t want sex given the current relationship status but you still think you know better what is best for her. Do you listen to her? Do you have respect for her needs? Clearly not. I hope she works this out soon.
Raven
I hope she dumps you…
Warasen
Ryan how do the 2 of you define boy/girl friend? How is it different from being exclusive?
LaFrance Thibodeaux
Ryan,Do you realize that you’ve asked prominently female posters for advice on how to ‘deal’ with a woman whom made it perfectly clear that shes not interested in casual sex with you?..Its obvious that you dont respect the womans mind nor her values.. Why open your home to her if shes not willing to give what you seem to think is owed to you?..So childish!..
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