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  • #470753 Reply
    Ester

    This guy I’ve been seeing and yes have slept with him too, asked me out for Sunday. We have had very nice dates, tennis and going out for a run and to a museum and nice places to eat. I said I’m on my period and he said ‘oh I forgot I have an interview tomorrow, lets go to the cinema tomorrow’. So today he said all tickets are booked up in his area for cinema and let’s meet later on in the week. A bit strange that I’m on my period and he cancels no? I’ve ignored his message, not sure whether to say something or just rule him off completely. What do you recommend?

    #470758 Reply
    Rose

    Next time do not share that information, although if that’s what’s bothering him would probably be worse to just show up like that.

    I think if that’s really the reason then he’s a douchebag!

    I would probably let it go for now and see how he acts next month, if he does that again then let him go.

    #470760 Reply
    Sonia

    It all depends on how much this bothers you. I’ve never had an issue with the men I have dated having a problem with me being on my period. There are just certain things that are not going to happen sexually with me being on my period. I however have a couple of friends who are in long term relationships with their men and they will not touch them when they are on their period (weird) but everyone is different. So if it bothers you that much you certainly don’t have to put up with it. It’s up to you. I would ask him as long as it’s not in an angry way if you being on your period bothers him, that way you know for the future. Depending on his answer you decide what you want to do.

    #470762 Reply
    Ester

    It bothers me that because I’m on my period it seems like he’d rather not see me. It hurts actually. I’m going to ask, ‘okey; if that’s your decision. Is this because I’m on my period..?’ I don’t want to come across as angry, but if he doesn’t want to see me when I’m on my period then that shows just what he wants no?

    #470763 Reply
    Khadija

    Ester,
    How do you know for sure that he cancelled because of that?
    Why did you feel inclined to share that in the first place?

    I’m just coming at an different angle with this one. Do you think all he sees you as is a casual sex partner? You mentioned you are dating him and have other activities outside of sex I would see no reason to bring that up.

    #470764 Reply
    Amy S

    Do you normally throw that into conversation ? Just wondering because he maybe thought you meant you were not up for anything. Give it some more time to unfold then u can work him out. I personally would not be discussing periods with guys until i really have to. x

    #470765 Reply
    Andrea

    and you may still have your period tomorrow…did you tell him which day you are on?

    #470767 Reply
    Jessica

    I’m curious too, why did you mention it? If you guys hooked up later in the night, that would be the time to mention it – because you can’t assume that anything is going to happen on any given night. Or are you guys FWBs and always hook up?

    It seems like you think that he’s only in it for the sex – if that’s not what you want, then I wouldn’t continue with this guy. You can’t make a man fall in love with you by having sex with him. Sex means nothing to guys on an emotional level. On the other hand, you KNOW when a guy feels something for you emotionally. Don’t settle.

    #470768 Reply
    Gemini615

    Do not ask him if that is he reason he is canceling. You are looking for reassurance and it is a turn off. You are making an assumption and if you ask him that he will think it is accusatory.

    Stop worrying. As long as he reschedules and follows through then things should be good. Don’t let your own insecurities ruin this. I think you’re being too sensitive.

    #470770 Reply
    Gemini615

    I’m also curious why you even felt the need to mention it? Kind of seems like you created this mess yourself

    #470771 Reply
    Ester

    I just got it yesterday, the day I was planning on seeing him. I said I have my period and in a bit of pain, so would rather take it easy and watch a movie instead of tennis if that’s ok with him. So he cancelled cuz he all of a sudden forgot about his interview and could he see me tomorrow for cinema. Sure I was happy to do that. Now he says he wants to see me later on in the week, rather than say tomorrow. Every time we have been on a date we have had sex.

    #470774 Reply
    Ester

    He said he is looking to date more seriously. We have had sex every time and he asked me to stay over which is why I told him. Maybe I shouldn’t have told him. So you think it’s forgivable that he reschedules to later on in the week? I’m feeling hurt but maybe I’m over sensitive now

    #470779 Reply
    Andrea

    I think you have not clearly told him what you want in a relationship and your actions have told him something else, that you are ok with how things are.. I think you need to tell him you are NOT OK with what is going on and then cut ties with him.

    #470782 Reply
    Andrea

    Sorry I missed your last message…he may say many things…what he does and says together is what is the truth….in any case, I think you are being much too available for him in this relationship.

    #470783 Reply
    Gemini615

    Sounds like your underlying insecurity is the fact that you’re unsure how he feels and are worried he’s only interested in sex, hence why he canceled the date.

    If you worry about a guy using you for sex, you really shouldn’t be sleeping with him until you are in a committed relationship. Otherwise, accept that it is a possibility that this may be just sex.

    But I think things are fine. You are being sensitive and creating problems that don’t exist. See if follows through with the rescheduled date

    #470785 Reply
    kaye

    Well I certainly don’t think asking if he canceled because you’re on your period is the smart thing to do. Do you really think he’s going to say yes?!?! And you are also just proving to a guy that women are overly sensitive and emotional that time of the month. If you are sleeping with him every time you see him then it does sound like he’s more interested in sex than in getting to know you. If you really want to know, then have a date where you don’t get physical with him and see what his reaction is. If he’s only after one thing that’s the quickest way to find out.

    #470786 Reply
    Sonia

    I don’t think it necessarily means that all he wants is sex, it could just mean that he gets weirded out by it. So again don’t sound angry like saying “ok is that your decision” sounds a little harsh. Just say something along the lines of hey this wouldn’t have anything to do with me being on my period would it? Or you can wait till next month and see if he has the same reaction to you being on your period.

    #470788 Reply
    Khadija

    I agree with Kaye. Don’t bring it up and when you’re not on your cycle go one date without sex. If a guy is only after sex you’ll get your answers soon enough.

    #470791 Reply
    Lane

    How long have you been together? How did he react the first time? Honestly I wouldn’t get miffed if a guy wanted to move it to a time–some guys and gals are cool with it, some aren’t so I wouldn’t go making a mountain out of a molehill.

    #470792 Reply
    Ester

    Okey I’ll listen to all of you, and let it slide this time and just be calm and positive. Im still feeling hurt though, like my value has just been lowered. It’s never happened before.

    #470793 Reply
    Ester

    We’ve been seeing each other since the beginning of this year, but it was casual and I wasn’t expecting anything because I moved away for some time. I’m back now since August and we are both looking for something more serious.

    #470795 Reply
    Boog

    When you say you have sex on all of your dates, does that include the first date?

    #470796 Reply
    Ester

    Lane, you wouldn’t get upset if he moved the date because of your period, or in general ?

    #470798 Reply
    Boog

    Oh, so you’ve gone out with him plenty of times. How has he reacted in the past when you have gone out while you were on your period?

    #470800 Reply
    Jessica

    I wouldn’t ask him why he cancelled – way too insecure and needy sounding. Just leave it alone. See what happens next – let him make the next move. Have patience and pull yourself together – work on yourself esteem. There are a lot of videos online about being the prize – you really need to get yourself in that mindset. You need to have confidence in yourself – that is what is attractive to men.

    If you think he’s in this for a relationship, then the next time you guys have a quiet moment together ask him what he’s looking for. And listen to what he says. Then tell him what you are looking for. If they are the same thing, then move forward.

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