Need some positivity after acting crazy – getting dignity back, how? ANON :)

Oh Silvia, stop doing this to yourself. I have acted crazy a bunch of times (probably more than i remember), and guess what? It doesnt matter. If you gone crazy with the two guys you described in earlier posts, try to avoid them. But thats really all there is. I call these men patiënts zero. Where you do all the dumb stuff and learn not to do it again. Crash dummies. People have far better things to do than gossip about you all day. And if some do, so what?
From the posts you have send in so far, you do sound like you could use some help becoming a more confident person or let that confident person come through after shaking of insecurities. It takes some time, or look for some sort of life coach. That one guy did a number on you mentally (i dont mean he was mean but you make him way too significant).
And do shy away from parties etc. Youre not shunned lol. Youre young

I tell you my most horrible crush and things i did. I fancied a man, 15 years older than me, very academic guy. I knew him from work. I send him a card to his house on Valentine to meet up. He send me an email he couldnt do that. I went to meeting where i knew he was, i send him inappropriate e-mails (i was the project leader by then of a few project where we hired him for academic research), i tried to make pictures of him at formal diners. My boss got fairly annoyed by me by then and i wanted to remove me as project leader which didnt happen i think. I visited friends of him and the worst: after this had gone on for two! Years i send him an email asking to please tell me he wasnt interested so i could get over it. He did, same night i had a one night stand and o was over him. Now that i do remember this, im embarrashed again, but my point is: so i was my crush and im sure some people gossiped but most just found it amusing, that guy himself included since he gave me books and always was happy to talk to me. You get over it. The guy died a few years ago, i found out by accident. I went to the funeral and besides pain for his family and friends i felt nothing. Time heals anything.
So i hope this glimse in craziness makes you at peace. And honestly i didnt even care back them

The best thing to do when you do something crazy is to forget it happened! Seriously, the faster you act (pretend if you have to) like it was no big deal, it oftentimes won’t be or become a big deal! So what, you reacted badly to a situation, trust me, there will be many times in your life that you are going to do or say something crazy in stressful situations and realize this after the emotions have calmed and have a clearer/calmer mind to work with.

This is why you should never ever do anything like this by text! Remember, its permanent, where once you say it you can’t take it back (unsay it); whereas the other has a record of it and can read it over and over and over. So really try, from hereon, to not text when in a highly emotional state, take a “time out” and do not engage until your emotions have calmed down and less apt to speak or react irrationally.

This is what growth is, learning through mistakes and mentally knowing when you’re heading to that dark place again (‘the emotional trigger’) by immediately recognizing it and doing the OPPOSITE of what you want to do because you now know how badly it goes if you do. Just let it go, act like nothing happened, and if someone brings it up just say “yup, I was acting like an irrational fool, I’m cool now and totally over it.” Then stop talking or thinking about it and it allow it to naturally die.