My boyfriend doesn't comfort me when I am sad

I get it.. that i was wrong. But why some people are so mean.. ? I appreciate your advice.. on basis of one incident some of you are calling me life sucker..drama queen..i admit that i am immature.I am just 22 for god sake..he is 32. you don’t even know me. We have been together from last 3 years..he is with me because he wanted to be.I am not perfect no one is..i will try to change..don’t judge if you don’t know someone.

This has to be a fake post. If your only 22, then your sister would only be 18 or 19, so how on eartjh can someone that young be so “successful”? You have literally avoided all the advice so that explains why your wasting our time.

Haven’t read other commenters comments but when I read your sentence “so I sent him a long message that how selfish he is.. ” I actually said OMG out loud.

Your issue isn’t with him, it’s with yourself. You come across as though you lack confidence and self-esteem, you’re probably jealous of your sister as you feel you should be doing better than her, but he is right, you should use what she does as motivation, why is that a bad thing? He is looking out for you & wanting you to do and be better, why do you seem sensitive to that? As I said before, the issue is with you not him. He said sorry, now drop it and work on yourself

Maybe you should dump him and look for the most immature 19 year old guy to date. That way the new guy may be able to keep up with your immaturity and whining and you can write each other as many long apologies on the same subject that you want and for months on end. That way you can enable each other and you don’t have to worry about him giving you the real life advice that you need. You will get all the coddling that you want and you can coddle him back.

As it doesn’t really look like you want to grow up. I cannot believe that you are 22 years old, you are behaving like a 12 year old!!

I am glad Gigi. Now what are you going to do? What I mean is …. what is your next move? If I were you, I would contact your bf and apologize and thank him for his constructive criticism. Also may be make a plan of how you will get your grades up or what have you. As in your own words if they don’t go up, you will not get your placement. It is easy to sit and feel sorry for yourself. But then what? Plan your next move …. where? what? when?

Oh my God.. People’s responses are so mean and wrong. All she is trying to say is that the love of his life doesn’t care about her when she is upset as much as she does. Maybe he treats it like an obligation. Apologizing because she is his girlfriend and not because he really felt bad. Maybe all she is trying to say is why can’t his boyfriend stick with her during her hard times and not run away and apologize when he gets time.. He knows that she is upset and would want him to console her and actually just show her that she is important to him even when you reject me I will come back to console you because you being sad really bothers me. Having said that it is also not fair to always expect your boyfriend to keep proving his love.. And rejecting him just so he assures his love.. Whoever you are girl I feel so bad that people have so much negative to say.. But maybe you felt this way because for you this relationship is important too.. Love is important.. Not just your career.

This gave me a headache.

Tough love is most needed when you feel attacked by it. All the advice given has a constructive ring to it. Everything I would have told you has already been said. So all I will say is, be your own man. Teach yourself that you have you for life. Not him not your sister. Console yourself. Get back up by yourself. Not everyone is gifted in education or careers or music or cooking or art..this may not be your strength but you do the best you can just enough to get through, you dont have to be the best of the best. Your boyfriend will support you the most he can through this but don’t expect him to have the energy to console you like how you would want whenever you would want. Sometimes you have to take it within yourself and not need others to be sad with you. Grow up is not an insult, it means take charge, help yourself, stop crying, be strong, you got this on your own. And another tiny advice, dont share absolutely everything that gets to you, sometimes you have to deal with the majority of the problems on your own first. Look to others only when you cannot help it yourself as much as you’ve tried. People or your boyfriend will want to understand you better this way because they see you crushing it the best you can. They will be proud. They will see you deserve a hand or a shoulder. But if you always cry in self pity the minute it gets tough people wont take you seriously.

Best of luck for the exams.