Is he interested? Should I wait or move on?

Hi, just wanted to get another lady’s opinion on my situation.

So I met this guy online. He seemed nice and keen to talk with me, he suggested a phone call straight away. We chatted for 38 minutes. Then about a week later he messages me again and after a while we end up having another phone call. Seemed pretty decent, nothing dodgy or anything like that. We exchange details at this point because through the app we met on, the quality of calls wasn’t the best so we switched to an app similar to WhatsApp.

During the call, he suggested we meet and take photos together (we’re both into photography). I thought that was a good idea. He asked me when I was free and tried to make plans with me there and then but I said I’d let him know because I wasn’t too sure of my schedule. He was respectful. The next day he texted me “hi, how’s your day?” And we end up texting a little bit. I declined to meet him on the day he asked if I was free just because it wasn’t a good day for me, I was a little tired. He was fine about it and didn’t make a fuss. Then a week later I decided to text him and he responded almost immediately. He suggested we meet up and this time I was up for it. So we made plans to meet for a drink 2 days later.

It was the best date ever. Like, it went so perfectly. We started at a café with something nice to drink, chatted about ourselves and we both asked each other questions. He seemed super into what I do, my work, and my life in general. He really listened to me and even remembered details I had previously said which was good. After talking in the café, he asked if I wanted to go for a walk. I said yeah of course. So we take a really beautiful slow walk along the seafront of our city at sunset and watched the city lights turn on. From our conversation, the laughter, the vibes, everything was amazing. I was like a little golden retriever lol I thought he liked me from the way he asked more and more questions and he even tried to get a little close to me at times whilst we walked together. Our steps were in sync and his shoulder brushed mine multiple times.

After walking and talking for a while he asked me if I wanted to go to a dance social (tango, to be exact). I said yeah absolutely! And then he said well let’s get dinner first. I was like okay. Very happy he’s extending the date at this point. Dinner was really nice, the conversation kept flowing. He kept suggesting fun things we could do the next time we’d meet. And then he said he thinks it’s too late for the dance social but suggested we go see a movie instead. I was totally fine with it. So we went to see this movie. Everything was great, we both enjoyed it very much. I felt so relaxed with him, I think we both felt really good vibes.

At the end of the film we talked about what we enjoyed about it and made jokes about it. Walking out of the cinema, he asked if we could meet again the following week after his short trip to Hong Kong. I said yeah that would be nice. He said when he’s back we can meet. I said to him I really enjoyed the date and I had a lot of fun. He said “let’s do it again”. Throughout the entire evening I was thinking wow this is amazing. We were together for 6 whole hours! He’s a very friendly, warm, down to earth guy. Slightly nerdy, like me. He paid for everything and open doors for me. I felt safe with him, which means a lot to me. When the movie ended it was past midnight. His taxi came before mine. But we said our goodbyes and he left. He didn’t hug me or anything like that. He told me to let him know when I got home. So I arrive home and I didn’t message him, but not on purpose it just slipped my mind. He texted me “got home?” And we chatted a little via text. He was cute and charming and we joked about our day. I sent the last message which didn’t really need a response, it was kinda the end of the conversation.

So the next day comes and I don’t hear from him at all, which is fine. He said he’d be travelling Hong Kong (which is not far away from where we live but he’d still have access to his phone). The second day passes and nothing. Third day, fourth day. And now day 5! I’ve heard nothing from him. Plans for the next date haven’t really been confirmed so it’s not like I know exactly when we’d be seeing each other again. I wondered whether things are fine but he did say when he’s back we’ll meet up again but I guess I had it in my mind that when a guy likes you he’ll want to talk to you. Just a little message to see how you are and if everything’s fine.

Obviously I wanted to talk to him but I don’t want to bother him especially if he’s working. I wondered whether it was possible for someone to have such an amazing date and then just vanish. But am I reading into the silence too much? Should I wait until he’s back and see if he reaches out again? Or do you think the silence is very telling? I just need to hear someone else tell me what they think so I can stop spiralling! Whether it’s good or bad, I just need to know the truth of the matter.

Thanks ladies 💖