I think my classmates hate me to think I am dumb


Home Forums The Community Lounge I think my classmates hate me to think I am dumb

Viewing 3 posts - 1 through 3 (of 3 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #940785 Reply
    Linda

    I know this is not really relationship related but I am slowly losing it and in this space where I feel so sad and low.
    It’s driving me crazy.
    First, I’m in a class where I am the only international student.
    Secondly, I switched courses and I am studying something different from what I studied previously.
    So I am basically still learning, however I have read a lot already about this field and have learnt a lot so far.
    However , it just feels like my classmates think I am dumb and have nothing to offer.
    Sometimes I wonder if it is because I come from a third world country and haven’t traveled a lot so they just assume that I don’t know stuff.

    I can be hanging out with them and they would be discussing about stuff and asking each other things but they would never ask me. At first I didn’t think too hard but at this point I just assume they think I don’t know stuff maybe cause of where I come from.

    We also work in groups most of the time and I’m always left out.
    It’s even crazier now I’m in a group with two others and they basically just discuss about stuff about the project and it’s like I’m not there and this is so clear that they just think and assume I don’t know it or have an opinion.
    One of them would ask the opinion of the other, implying that they know it more than I do and would never ask me cause obviously I don’t know it or something.
    It’s really so annoying how they all just think I’m so dumb.
    It makes me feel so inferior and now I just try to tune it out and not think too much but I feel so inferior. I cry, I’m sad. I feel out of place.
    I just don’t know how to cope

    #940795 Reply
    peggy

    Hi.I tink you may just need to be more aggressive, Speak and add something to the topic or conversation if you know about it,. Also you can speak about about something you may not know too much about and say “That sounds like something I want to learn more about,what can you tell me?” Could be that you are assuming they are ignoring you and maybe they have misconceptions about you. Be bold and speak up!

    #940797 Reply
    Nat

    Are they discussing local subjects? If so I think it’s fair that they would assume you wouldn’t know a lot. And if you stay quiet they will keep assuming you don’t know much. It’s a group project though, jump in with your ideas. Ask THEM questions. If it’s other related subjects that you are all learning together, then nobody knows more than the other. You have to put yourself out there to participate and add your opinion, because it may also be more comfortable for them to talk to a person that’s local than opening conversations with someone that’s international. They may just not know how, especially if you’re too quiet. Some people enjoy the challenge to get words out of quiet people but some will not dare and then complain later that YOU don’t participate. I find your english very good, (which personally is my second language) meaning no language barrier here and communication is not a problem so don’t be afraid to be you and show them what you can contribute. I’m sure once you spoke up a few times things will change. If it doesn’t improve, speak to your lecturer. All the very best in your studies. 💕

Viewing 3 posts - 1 through 3 (of 3 total)
Reply To: I think my classmates hate me to think I am dumb
Your information:





<blockquote> <code> <pre> <em> <strong> <ul> <ol start=""> <li>

recent topics