I keep having dreams about confronting him

Sounds a lot like my ex! But guys usually do that they don’t like to sit down and be adults about the situation. They just rather break up with you through a stupid text. I’ve tried confronting too, Tallspicy is right if they can’t see what they did they just won’t care. You deserve better

You keep dreaming about confronting him because you feel like there’s unresolved issues between you two or things left unsaid.

The more time goes by, the more it will reveal what has been unresolved or unsaid and will resolve itself. It might not even matter to you anymore when it does.

Like tall spicy said it shows who he is and maybe that is all you need to know.

You know how I know it is him and who he is? I have broken up with or been broken up with many times. This is the only one who literally months later, I am still angry with. Every other man who I had this with – we left kindly – we acknowledged we liked each other, but for some reason it was not working. And a wish you the best. I wished him the best when we broke up in person and when we texted a few days later. I never even get a Hi Tallspicy, or a wish you the best – either in person or his bait and switch. He said he had bad breakups, I never have – now I know why.

Never date men who badmouth their exes – calling them nasty names years later. It shows they do not have a forgiving heart and are disrespectful of women.

I should have known because he had showed me who he was before all of this. My guess is your guy as well.

Thank you all for your personal answers and advice. After reading your experiences, I know (because I’ve also been in this position) that he is being rude and cold to me because he still loves me. And yet for some reason I can’t get it out if my head that we ended so badly even though I know he did a bad thing and I deserve better. I’ve tried writing a letter but it’s like everyday my brain comes up with more things that I am angry about.

I am not angry at him anymore – he had some very lovely parts of him and I truely am grateful for some of what he did, compassionate about where he is at and forgive him. I gave all of these details so that the poster can see she is not alone. That said, I did ignore some major red flags and I have no one to blame but myself on that! That is on me. He did nothing to me that was not in line with who he presented himself to be in some ways when I really think about it. So I chose this. I won’t ever again.

Things I learned – perhaps the poster can use this to process
– Never ignore red flags, just yellow ones. Red flags get dumped.
– When the relationship is over, time to make sure you see him for who he is – no pedestal.
– When people say the will communicate or something else about emotional intelligence, make sure that what the say about their past and the actions they have taken indicate that they are actually capable. A lot of people say they can and want to communicate, but if they demonstrate that they are not actually doing it, or were not able to in the past – make sure they have done the work.
– Forgive yourself where needed

This all frames a bad situation into what you will learn, which means nothing you did is a mistake.