I Cheated on My Husband

You made ONE mistake. This is your cross to bear. Shut up and deal with it. Go talk to him and tell him you absolutely cannot repeat this mistake ever and you two need to stay away from each other as much as possible for a while.

But you’d better get yourself in check because if you do it again, it’s a bigger problem and since it’s his best friend he WILL find out at some stage.

Why are you doing this? For the thrill?

Are you SURE you love your husband enough to stay married the rest of your life??

You are anything but helpless. You are the only one who can control your behavior. Taking responsibility for what you did is the first step. I think you should go to a counselor to get some support or you are heading for disaster and divorce.

And one more thing – calling yourself names and beating on yourself isn’t going to help. You made a bad mistake. That doesn’t make you a bad person forever. You have to get this under control. You do it again and it will probably cost you your marriage.

This is the maximum amount of betrayal you can do with your husband. Wife with best friend. If he finds out, he will be devastated. And still you want to do it again. If you think youre having a single moment because you got married so young, thats no excuse at all. Something drove you to the cheating. Its either you who doesnt want to be committed or the husband who isnt what you thought he would be. I think you should get divorced

You are considering telling your husband because you want the best friend, and you know your husband will leave you immediately.

You want to destroy your husband and reveal the true person you are to everyone? All those people who came to your wedding?

Oh God, you are a piece of work.

Telling him would destroy him. Tell the buddy to stay away. Then do not ever speak to the buddy again. Don’t call him, don’t text him, remove his number from your phone.

Ok Melissa – since you’re so smart, go tell him and see what happens. Neither his wife nor his best friend have his best interests at heart. That’s the truth today. It doesn’t have to be the truth tomorrow. The truth can be, his wife made a mistake and recovered from it, learned and loves him so much she would never do it again.

He’s the innocent party here. He doesn’t deserve to have his world crushed and his heart broken. The best punishment for you is to have to keep this secret the rest of your life. You f***ed up, badly. Nothing to do with him. So leave him out of it and woman up and stay the hell away from his friend. You were young and foolish. Guess what – you just grew up overnight.

If you’re really sorry and really love him, you will never do this again. If you really don’t belong with him, then this is it. Time to get an annulment and let him go find someone can give him the love and loyalty he deserves.

Toni, great advice

Isn’t marriage all about honesty and trust and if he’s a person who believes in the vows taken and loves you,he will still love you ,only it will take time to recover, there will be rage n anger n bitterness,yes it will break him once he knows about it and it will take a very long time to trust you again, but look at all the marriages that have been through these situations n the couples that r still together,that’s what marriage is to be together through to the end. Not something that can be ended or thrown out.Best ask some older generation couples what they would have done,that’s where you can learn a thing or two from.

I find funny how people are telling her not to tell anything to her husband.

If I was typing here that I cheated on my wife with her best friend women would go phyco on me, and you know that’s true. You women are way less harsh when is another woman talking.

She didn’t cheat with a random guy, she cheated with his best friend, it makes a whole difference, and there are lots of chances the other guy is going to feel guilty and talk to him.

Second and very important, she STILL wants the other guy. And her guilt is killing her yet most women here are telling her to shup it.

My advice to the OP is first, think what you want, do you really really want to stay with your husband?? If the answer is yes, talk to him, there are many chances he will leave you, yes, but like I said probably he is going to know about this eventually, I don’t think it will be good for you to have that preasure of what is going on. If he forgives you, try to learn from this.

If you are into that other guy and really are not happy with your husband, divorce is not the end of the world, you are young and you don’t have kids, things can be much more complicated in the future.

Think well what you want.

Sweet Angel 80-

You talk about his love and trust having taken marriage vows, what about hers?!

One year in she bangs his best friend, with the cop out of I’m young? Then adds she wants his best friend again.

But he’s the one who’s going to get over it in time? Guess again girl.

Please do tell your husband so he can dump both you and his “best” friend.

That’s how to make it right.

Guess she missed the part about forsaking all others.

@Toni gave the best advice of all.