How to get a second date?

I don’t understand. The restaurant called you? Not him? And you are going to ‘take your time’ responding back to him? Why ? If you have a legitimate reason for contacting him.

This sounds like a ploy to get him to start chatting again. Bad idea.

Who knows. Maybe this is fate trying to give HIM a nudge towards you. Not everything can be analyzed and fit into a category and be black and white. I wouldn’t play games with taking time to respond to him…if I lost my ID I kind of would be frantic about it, although it’s been two weeks so he may have already taken steps to have it replaced. Still, I would answer him the way I normally would…not necessarily checking the phone every ten seconds but answer the text when you notice it. Be polite. I would also offer to mail it to him and see what he says. Sometimes it does seem like there is some magic out there working in our favor, and who knows, maybe this is one of those times. Maybe not.

Ugh not the best sign but maybe he’s driving so he saw the text but didn’t have time to respond.

Well at least you will KNOW definitely by his response if he has ANY interest at all. Or by his lack of response.

I am worried I should have just told the restaurant to call him and give them his number

Rita,
Please let this whole thing go.
If he’s not worried about his ID then you shouldn’t be either. This is something that can be replaced, keep that in mind. Plus he’s a grown man.

He probably contacted the restaurant and made arrangements on his own to pick up his ID.

Either way he has shown to be non responsive. The time that you are sitting around thinking about him could be spent on someone who’s actually responsive to you.

Just a thought.

Maybe he thought this was a plot to get back in touch with him?

Got a message now: says he broke his phone and lost my number bahahaahah

Just leave it…..

it always seems to me to be WAY more work to try to analyze a guy who is not totally motivated and wanting to see you again, than try to pick up a new guy…

I always take the easier route of stop contacting me or thinking about him…Find someone new….At least that is what I am doing now with myself….

Ugh, I hate this kind of game playing. Did he not have any other way to get hold of you?

I dated a guy a few times once and then never heard from him again. I’d liked him but figured he didn’t feel the same way. He came back a year and a half later when my e-mail spammed everyone in my address book, telling me that he had texted me but it must have dropped and since I didn’t respond he didn’t think I was interested anymore. I thought that was a likely excuse but because I liked him so much I accepted it. He ended up breaking my heart worse than anyone in my entire life ever had months later. Looking back I feel that he thought he could do better than me but when he found he couldn’t he came back and used that lame excuse.

Tread carefully. Keep your guard up. WAY up.

Getting complicated …

Oh Honey – Rita, no…

Here’s how this will play out:
You’ll message him again.
Suggest you get together.
He’ll agree.
You two will have sex – not something you usually do.
You’ll never see him again.
You’ll be heartbroken.
Come back to this site wondering what the Hell happened.

Keep your dignity …
He’s shown you he’s not interested … sorry!

Who knows who’s around the corner for you…

Rita, let this guy go. I’ve had a cell phone for over 15 years, and have never once had it “break” to the extent that I could not place a phone call or send a text message. This guy isn’t interested, he was probably trying to let you down easy because your actions make you seem clingy and crazy. I’m sorry if this sounds harsh. I am NOT saying you ARE clingy or crazy, but that’s how a man reads a woman who is so eager after only one date. It’s not possible to like someone that much after such a short amount of time. I suspect you want a relationship and you like the fantasy that this guy could be the one for you, more than you actually like the individual person. Just good for thought.

One more thing, I noticed in a previous comment you said something about the guy leading you on. Don’t have this mentality. When women say a man led her on, what they generally mean is they wanted a relationship so they looked for clues the guy also wanted to same thing and interpreted every meaningless thing he said or did as “proof” he wanted to be in a relationship. When it turns out the man doesn’t want to be with her, the woman gets upset or mad, plays the victim and takes the mentality the guy was “leading her on.” Leading you on is intentional behavior that you will never experience with a normal man. Stop worrying about whether the dude likes you, live more in the moment, and you won’t find yourself with these feelings anymore.