He won't add me to his social media

Just found my husband looking at really attractive woman on Instagram. Then he admits to having over 2k ppl he is following. He says there are things private in a persons life that should be private even from a spouse, and he said I am not allowed to see his Instagram, and I am not allowed to follow him on Instagram. We have been married 16 years. 10 yrs ago he had an affair, and I have caught him in lies on more than one occasion. I am very forgiving, and here I sit 16 years into a relationship and I am faced with another instance of subversion. As I am now nearing 50, I have more patience, but less desire to be the one who gives and gives. I told him this was creating a very large rift in our relationship, considering he began deleting people, and posts. (you can see that on Instagram even if you aren’t following someone). He said there is no reason for it to cause and issue, and said he was done talking on the subject. Period. He will not talk about it at all not a single word.

Wow! Reading this forum has helped me. I also have a similar case of not being added to his social media, even after 7 years. I am in my 50’s & recently found out that my boyfriend is still keeping in touch with an x girlfriend. He is the type that gets very upset if I talk to x boyfriends but somehow thinks it’s ok for him. We have broken up a few times during these 7 years but has only lasted 3-6 months at a time & end up getting back together. Just as the other post, he will have some of my friends & my daughter on his Facebook but never will accept or friend request me. He spends a lot of time on social media scrolling & reading other posts but he rarely posts. We were together a few days ago when he seemed to be on his phone a lot, so out of curiosity, I picked up his phone & looked while he was away from his phone & found that he is still talking to his x girlfriend. (Nothing bad) but when I ask if they still communicated, he told me “No” but when I showed him a snapshot of their texts he blew up at me & got very defensive & turned the focus pointing out faults of mine that had nothing to do with social media or text. He was so outraged, he told me to go home & he never wanted to see me again. Im pretty sure he blocked me from his # & have heard nothing from him in 5 days

Hi Raven
Thank u for the response. My heart is hurting!

IS IT POSSIble TO GET FRIEND REQUEST FROM FACEBOOk WITHOUT HAVING AN ACCOUNT??????

I was getting requests for Linkeldn when I didn’t have an account. It was a come on to set up an account.

How are you seeing these friend requests? Are they through e-mail? That’s what my Linkeldn requests looked like.

Oh I was being stupid! I was thinking you meant you’re on FB and the other person wasn’t! Yes you can get a request if the person has your email address to that email.

he’s hiding something

Ask him…