He Unblocked Me, Shall I Message Him?

Hi Chloe-and what would be the point of that…? If you hopehope to rekindle things,let him make an actual move. If he doesn’t,then I would move on and stay no contact. And IMO trying to be “friends” makes no sense-someone always wants more,gets hurt or used as FWB..

We split in the April and he blocked me end of May. We haven’t spoke since and well I thought that cos hes unblocked me maybe the ball is in my court?

Are you kidding? Ball in your court how? Please tell me you are not that Naive.If he could Block you for all these months and made no effort to contact you why do you assume he wants anything more from you now?

Please do not embarrass yourself and give him any further reason to take away your power and dignity.

Let him come to you if he has any interest to do so. Too often as women we get desperate and allow men to treat us as idiots. Move on and live your life. You can always meet someone else he is an ex for a reason.

Do not start over thinking and analyzing why he unblocked you, it’s most likely not the reason you think, if he missed you and wanted more he would pick up the phone and call you or make some other attempt to contact you. Unblocking you means nothing.

In any case, you will do what you are itching to do and will reach out to him anyway.
Don’t be too surprised when you find out it was for nothing.

Do what you feel that is right if you have great friends to support you they will pick you up every time it goes wrong or be happy when it’s going great I got back with my ex 4 times he told me he needed me the first time I got back with him he told me he couldn’t live without me the second he told me I was his soul mate the third he told me he missed me and he loved me and wanted no one else but couldn’t be in a relationship the fourth. He unblocked me on facebook last week after he blocked and deleted my number. I have no desire to message him. Messaging him is what he wants he needs to know you want contact but like I said do what you want you learn from your own mistakes not by people telling you what to do because you will always be thinking what if I did do what I wanted to do

I recently changed my FB privacy settings and it somehow unblocked some people (not exes, just people I didnt want looking in on my life anymore) I didn’t even know until one or two of them liked a couple of my posts. It could be the same for him, it probably doesn’t mean anything but would certainly look a bit creepy and desperate if you suddenly message him. If it does mean something, he will contact you then you’ll know for sure. But don’t sit around waiting for contact from him, just keep moving on and please don’t start stalking his social media because that will only keep you stuck and make it harder for you to move on

if hes unblocked u in May, why hasn’t he got in touch with you post that? its almost 4 months now. let him connect since he was the one that shut you out.

This is an oldish thread but I’d like to weigh in on this with my opinion, which will be similar to your ex’s side of this.
So there’s this guy I know, we dated over 10 years ago very briefly. I don’t recall exactly why I broke it off with him then, but knowing what I know now it was probably the same reason I broke it off with him now. About a month or 2 ago we had gotten in contact again through Facebook and started talking. At first his messages were sweet and endearing, but very quickly things started going way too fast on his end (talking about what kind of vehicle we’d need for all our kids, taking me on a trip to Montana…). Maybe if I hadn’t just left a particularly volatile marriage of 4 years this kind of talk would’ve swept me off my feet. But it made me panic and run for the hills instead. I should add too, it got this serious 1 week into talking. He wouldn’t stop blowing up my phone, and wanted to FaceTime for hours every night. It was just way too much, way too clingy. I ended up telling him things were moving too fast, that I didn’t believe I was ready to date anybody, that I wasn’t interested in dating him…and he just didn’t get the hint. Kept messaging me incessantly. So I blocked him. This was, like I said, a month or 2 ago. Today I unblocked him. Why? Like somebody else mentioned: I was just being nosy. I wanted to see if he moved on and found somebody else. Not that I care if he did…more so like “Did he finally find somebody else so I don’t have to worry about him bothering me again”. Not even 4 hours after unblocking him, I see he sent me a Facebook message. I didn’t open it, and I don’t plan to. I can see his message starts with “I just want to say I’m sorry. And I hope…”. Now I have to wait 48 hours to block him again. It is creepy to me that he’s been keeping tabs on me. I made it clear to him then I wasn’t interested and I’m still not. I wish he’d take a hint and leave me be. Like many others mentioned: if I wanted to be with him I’d talk to him. Moral of the story here is: don’t be this guy sweetheart. It’s not cute and it won’t get him thinking he shouldn’t have left you. All it will do is make you look needy, insecure, and like you’re a crazy stalker. Have more self respect than this, and let it go. If it’s meant to be, it would be. And it’s not.

lol peggy. i copied and pasted her comment with paragraphs so you and others can easily read…

So there’s this guy I know, we dated over 10 years ago very briefly. I don’t recall exactly why I broke it off with him then, but knowing what I know now it was probably the same reason I broke it off with him now. I ended up getting in trouble with the law not long after and stopped thinking about him. About a month or 2 ago we had gotten in contact again through Facebook and started talking. At first his messages were sweet and endearing, but very quickly things started going way too fast on his end (talking about what kind of vehicle we’d need for all our kids, taking me on a trip to Montana…). Maybe if I hadn’t just left prison after 4 years this kind of talk would’ve swept me off my feet. But it made me panic and run for the hills instead.

I should add too, it got this serious 1 week into talking. He wouldn’t stop blowing up my phone, and wanted to FaceTime for hours every night. It was just way too much, way too clingy. I ended up telling him things were moving too fast, that I didn’t believe I was ready to date anybody, that I wasn’t interested in dating him…and he just didn’t get the hint. Kept messaging me incessantly. So I blocked him. This was, like I said, a month or 2 ago. Today I unblocked him. Why? Like somebody else mentioned: I was just being nosy. I wanted to see if he moved on and found somebody else. Not that I care if he did…more so like “Did he finally find somebody else so I don’t have to worry about him bothering me again”.

Not even 4 hours after unblocking him, I see he sent me a Facebook message. I didn’t open it, and I don’t plan to. I can see his message starts with “I just want to say I’m scared of you. And I hope you aren’t allowed around childr…”. Now I have to wait 48 hours to block him again. It is creepy to me that he’s been keeping tabs on me. I made it clear to him then I wasn’t interested and I’m still not. I wish he’d take a hint and leave me be. Like many others mentioned: if I wanted to be with him I’d talk to him. Moral of the story here is: don’t be this guy sweetheart. It’s not cute and it won’t get him thinking he shouldn’t have left you. All it will do is make you look needy, insecure, and like you’re a crazy stalker. Have more self respect than this, and let it go. If it’s meant to be, it would be. And it’s not.

You block HIM!

Hell no. Do not contact him. Why should you?

If he went through the trouble of unblocking you and is now interested enough to keep up to date with what you’re up to via your stories, then he will go through the trouble of contacting you himself.

Chances are, he might. I’d just wait it out.

Either way it works in your favor. If he doesn’t contact you who cares you’ll just go back to what you were doing. If he does contact you then I suppose that works in your favor too, seems like you want him to.

My ex boyfriend broke up with me in April he claimed that feelings were “lost” but he got on a new medication weeks ago prior and we were engaged but didn’t have rings yet and I was thinking “oh ya know he’s acting weird maybe he might propose?” But I also had the thought in the back of my mind he’d leave. And he did but he wasn’t himself he would never break up with me like we were meant to be and we were so In love and he became a new person entirely which broke my heart I begged and plead him to stay (shouldn’t have done that I know now) and then a week after the breakup we had a fight with his female friend and in turn she made him hate me he blocked me off everything and said “I’m never talking to you again!” Which isn’t him he blocked my mom and me my best friend but not my close cousin. Nor did his aunt or sister block me on fb which has made me question a lot of things… I do love him and ya know a couple weeks after that I found out I was pregnant and it’s his. I love him with all my heart in hopes he’ll come back but I can’t have my hopes up or well here’s how life works for me…I hope and he doesn’t come back I forget about him he comes back I don’t know what to do now I don’t want to lose him more than I already have I just want him back😭😭😭💔

Hello I’m so confused I hope someone can help but I have been messaging my crush on social media for a week or so and he suddenly blocks me .. I’m not sure if it was something I said or did but he blocked me and recently two days ago I just noticed he unblocked me because I could send a message to him but I decided not too… he seems to be in messenger a lot recently but no reply I’m not sure if I should message him or let him message me ? I really like him and I’m not sure if it was something I did that caused him to block me.