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Kitty Girl
So, I don’t know if you’ve read my previous post, but my crush and I are now officially “In Like” with eachother (is that even a thing? Idk. Anyways, continuing). So, he says he likes me back, but he doesn’t really act like it. He never texts back, he doesn’t talk to me as much, he hardly flirts anymore, etc. Why is this happening? And before you say, “Well, why don’t you ask him that instead of asking other people who don’t even know him?” I know. But I’ve already bothered him enough about this whole situation, not believing this amazing thing that has happened to me, and he’s not very comfortable talking about it. So, please, help me!
Kitty Girl
Edit- I forgot to mention, his best friend says “I’m trying too hard,” which I am NOT. Maybe it’s because now that he knows I like him back and that I really want him, he stopped trying to get closer to me?
Andy
I get that “trying to hard” thing too, but people don’t realize it’s just the way I’m wired. They’d hate to see me when I DO start trying real hard.
His idea of “like” might be different than your idea of “like”. I can like an animal, I can like a piece of furniture, and I can like a person, but that doesn’t mean I’m interested in them romantically.
m
Do you mind if I ask how old you are?
In my opinion, the best we can do is tell a guy what we prefer and then let him either do it or not. If he does it, great, appreciate him for it and tell him how happy it makes you. If he doesn’t, then maybe consider if you want to be with him or not. There are lots of guys who will text and call and want to spend lots of time with you. And there are guys who are kind of distant and won’t engage much, and they think you should just be okay with that. How do you want to be treated? How do you want to feel? If you don’t feel good about the way he treats you, then you can tell him and move on if he doesn’t want to do what works with you.
Others might have different advice but how I usually do it is I say something like, ‘hey, you should know I like a lot of attention. It’s fine if that isn’t your style, but if you want me to keep hanging around, you might want to send me a text to check in every day’ or something like that. Try to make it specific, so he doesn’t have to figure it out. He might improve over time or he might not. You get to decide how much time you’ll invest before you move on
Kitty Girl
No, Andy, he definitely meant as in romantically interested.
Kitty Girl
M, ok, that’s good advice. I will try.
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