He says he thinks he is disappointing me.

If you are ok w sleeping with a man without commit, then you need to be OK with it…

You are obviously trying to lock him down after sex…. that was not the agreement …. he never agreed to behave as a BF after sex

He did reach out the day after sex, so even though it wasn’t as many times as you were used to, it does show he was thinking about you.

You should have been CHILL and let him get his out of town work done. This would have been a great time for you to catch up with a female friend, treat yourself to a movie, etc. Something to occupy your time and emotions. He should have been wondering what YOU were up to, and this would have allowed his anticipation of spending time with you again to build.

Men process things differently than women I’ve come to realize, and expecting him to have some big talk over a non-issue made you look overemotional. He’s probably wondering if you have a crazy side that’s coming out.

You need to back off with the expectations, especially since you decided to sleep with him before becoming his girlfriend. Your interactions with him should be pleasant and fun. There is no relationship, so there shouldn’t be any relationship-type problems.

If you keep being an insecure drag, you will run him off.

He is trying to manage your expectations and my guess would be he is trying to manage them down. I wouldn’t put any eggs in this basket if I were you.
Off topic: He needed reassurance from you that he is not disappointing you. Yet you took it like things are all about you. That’s my take. You need to be super chill and detached from here on out. I would practice yoga.

Easy hit the nail on the head! You’re riding the oxytocin train (hormonal sex cocktail) where you bonded to him through sex but the problem is men DO NOT bond this way! Although they do have these hormones, there’s much lower to the point they dissipate during sex and when they release (ejaculate) they feel an overwhelming urge to ‘get away’ so they can reboot and get their hormonal levels back to normal.

This is the BIGGEST MISTAKE women make with men! Men don’t attach through sex because they are hardwired the opposite of women in this realm by mother nature (biology/genetics) where he can easily go have sex with four different women every night and not catch feelings for any of them!!!

You need to stop having sex with men until you’re in a relationship and know for certain he love’s you or you’re going to scare a lot of men away with your ‘feelings’ (after sex hormonal cocktail) if you keep acting this way. You failed the ‘sex test’ and showed him you’re one of those clingy and needy types which turns a man off in a nanosecond if he hasn’t developed any deep feelings (aka ‘love’) towards you yet.

He doesn’t understand how a woman feels after sex because they don’t have the hormonal rush and don’t experience it the way you and most other women do. For a man, sex is a release/relief, like you craving ice cream all day long and when you finally get a taste of it your like “OMG that was just what I needed” and then the urge to eat it again for awhile (week, month or longer) is gone after you enjoyed it—same concept for a man! To them sex is a physical act, like eating, where once they’ve enjoyed the steak (had sex) they don’t think of the steak (the woman) afterwards and can go on with his life without having another thought her…until he craves steak again and doesn’t care who offers it, he’ll take it because it quenches his hunger pang, like that bowl of ice cream does for you….you don’t care WHERE the ice cream came from nor will you care where you’ll get it next time when that urge to eat it again strikes you—same concept for a man when it comes to sex!

This is how men THINK and OPERATE so if you’re going to engage in sex be prepared for a lot of men to go get their steak elsewhere if you act emotional and clingy because they can drop a lady super quick and never give her another thought! Now if a man is IN LOVE (there are many stages) although he still derives the same relief/release through sex, she’s the only one he wants to go back and have it again and again and again and again with, not because of the sex but because of ALL the wonderful things that happens OUTSIDE of the bedroom. So if a man hasn’t fallen IN LOVE with you (declared or expressed it) don’t have sex or you risk driving yourself crazy and men running away because all he wanted with you at that point-in-time was a steak (sexual release) not a relationship.