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Cora
There’s this guy that I met through a sports event & a common friend. He started pursuing me, and I was interested at first. Later on I realized that I didn’t trust him due to a girl from the event telling me to be careful around this guy. I distanced myself from him & avoided meeting him.
In October, I got a call from a girl who told me that this guy wants her & he has told her that we’ve never had any sexual relations, so she wanted to let me know that he wants her. The girl was very insulting & using vile language. Later on, this guy texted me to inform me that that was his ex who was threatening to kill herself with a knife if he continued pursuing me, and that this girl accessed his phone to contact me. This was too much drama, so I went silent on the guy for about a month, from Oct to Nov.
He made no effort to make a good apology, but still continued to text me telling me that he loved me, which I didn’t reply. Now I received one of his calls this month. It’s like he expected everything to go back to normal and there was no remorse on his side & there was a lot of victim mentality on his side (by insisting the girl wanted to cut herself) yet I’m the one who was hurt.
Now, I’ve mentioned this story because I need to decide what to do with him. Previously, I didn’t block him since we have a common friend.
He hurt me, so I strongly feel like of doing a “soft revenge” by asking him to meet me somewhere and then blocking him.
On the other hand, I feel like I should take the high road, and make peace with him. Tell him that we should just be friends since I can’t move on from the fact that he hurt me.
This is a hard thing to do since I don’t want to have to remind the person who hurt me what he did.
Besides, he has been pursuing me recently, so I need to know what to do with him.Tallspicy
I am not sure if English is your first language. But not sure how he hurt you from this post. He explained the situation, not sure what else you expect and why.
You don’t say if you were dating or not. That said, this man comes with a lot of drama. And… soft revenge, how old are you? That statement alone makes me question if you like the drama as well….
Adult thing to do: tell him you appreciate him reaching out, but you are no longer interested and ask him not to contact you anymore. If he does, just block him or explain this is too messy and you want something with no drama.
Cora
@Tallspicy
He hurt me by allowing that girl to call me and say hurful things me. We weren’t officially dating, but we were going out and having conversations. Thanks for your advice.Tallspicy
Not sure how he allowed it if she stole his phone. That said, you have more than one warning that this is not a good dude. Just end it.
Tammy
This is too much drama with a person whom you dont even know well. Pls just walk away.i agree with the above poster. Just tell him your not intrstd in pursuing things with him. And wish him luck. If he persists block his number.
Maddie
Think of it this way. If he believes nothing happened, then that means this drama is totally normally for him. Which backs up what you’ve heard about him not being a good guy. Take the good advice above and be done with him, no revenge, because you don’t need drama and people you can’t trust in your life. If you keep answering him or setting him up for revenge, you’ll just keep getting drama.
Raven
Yup, Block him!
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