He got super upset over a simple question

Honestly , I’d just say don’t answer at all.
But if that’s not your style … just write back something like , no worries , sure we can be friends .
Then just leave it !!!!! Do not under any circumstances hang out with him as friends ever . If he asks to see you say you’re busy . He probably won’t even ask . If he does it’s because he feels bad and is trying to be nice . You weren’t friends with him before . There is no reason why you should be now .

You could say something like , thanks for your honesty. I have to admit I am bummed , since I feel we had a connection . But I definitely understand and wish you the best . I don’t think it makes sense for me to stay friends .

This way he knows you were into him and trust me .. if you made an impact on him as much as he did on you , he will come back if he wants to date . This is leaving the door open.

I hate to burst your bubble but if he also thought it was that great of a connection, he would be pursuing you and not someone else. You’re trying too hard to find a politically correct way to still be an option to him. You like him more than he likes you and he knows it. It flatters him and that’s why he didn’t just ghost you.

I’d say, hey thanks for being honest, no hard feelings, best wishes that everything works out for you. I wouldn’t even address the friends thing. You’ve drawn a line under the whole thing in a polite way to shut it down but he knows you wouldn’t bite his head off if he contacted you again. If he does contact you again because it didn’t work out with her, I’d make him work like hell to get me and it would be a long time before I had sex with him again. You need to set yourself up on his mind as the ultimate prize… and that means you have to believe you’re the ultimate prize for the right man, for real and not for pretend just to hook him.

I honestly think you busted him dating someone else and I wouldn’t be too eager to set myself up as his back-up girl, second choice, next thing, whatever you want to call it. This great connection you think you felt is just female hormones women experience after good sex. That isn’t the foundation of a relationship or love or anything lasting.

*I honestly think you busted him dating someone else and I wouldn’t be too eager to set myself up as his back-up girl, second choice, next thing, whatever you want to call it*

And me. Whether your original question was a mood killer or not, his over-reaction to it made me very suspicious that, in fact, he WAS seeing someone else, or had been in the not too distant past. If he had nothing to hide, he would either have provided an explanation, laughted it off, or both. Sounded therefore you hit a nerve here.

Uh, I’d run away.
You are either in the running for side chick because he is involved with the woman with the beauty products in his bathroom already or he met someone he is more into than you.No guy who has *the feeling* about a woman says that another woman is occupying his mind, and then offers friendship. Think about it, if you were into a guy, would you tell him you had another man on the mind but lets be friends?

I would not even respond. What happens is this guy bread crumbs you and you think he is an option and start passing up real options in hope that you will land him.Which you are unlikely to. If down the road, he regrets this, he will reach out and make a play to get you.

Thanks, guys. I may have dodged a bullet with this one but who knows. I’m not a side-chick or a second option. I am open to life being messy but I value myself which is why I wanted to confirm if he was single. But the truth always outs itself and this one isn’t for me but thanks for the advice.

You’re welcome !!
If you can muster up the guts to not respond at all that would be amazing !!! He doesn’t deserve a reply