He got super upset over a simple question

That’s one way to kill the mood and momentum! All you have to do is say something the wrong way, or at the wrong time, and in the snap of finger all interest is immediately evaporated. I’ve had men say things that were instant interest killers and had zero desire to talk or see them again, even when they responded the same way you did, that it wasn’t meant that way but it’s the only way it could be taken from the listener.

I would stop all contact, accept this one is gone, chalk it up to a lesson learned that those kind of questions really should be sussed out prior to sleeping with a man, not immediately afterwards.

Well I think I posed the question well. Wasn’t much of a mood killer other than there was a women’s skin and haircare shelf staring at me. So he could’ve either said they’re his or that they’re an exes and leave it at that. I have enough self awareness to be able to read a room and know when to press a subject but I was within my right to ask and I don’t feel guilty about it. My question was more about wether I should try and reach out or not since we did have a great connection.

” My question was more about wether I should try and reach out or not since we did have a great connection.”

Lust is not a real connection. You had lust, which is very common. It’s hard to maintain lust, unless both of you are onboard. He clearly has no interest in being pushed into anything. He may reach out again because men appreciate good sex. But he is not sitting around thinking about the amazing connection you had at this point. He wanted sex, got it, and has moved onto other things in life.

If he had met you and been like, wow, she is the one, he would have explained the women’s products or laughed off your question or done what he could to assure you. He’d be reaching out for a second date.

Dylan, are you male or female? Because from the way you write and your photo, it seems like you are male? Only asking because if you are, I understand from my gay male friends it’s very common for gay men to hook up right away, they handle it differently than women. Regardless…

If he really liked you and there wasn’t another woman on the scene, he would have laughed it off.

If he’s super vain and those were his products, he has no sense of humor.

I’ve found people only get overly angry when you’ve hit on a truth they’re uncomfortable with.

Let him be. Not the right one for you.

Don’t reach out to him. He’s not interested so just block him.

Allie raised a good question…are you a man? If so, getting advice from a bunch of chicks might not be your best bet. Haha. If not, you could have scared him off by asking a somewhat intrusive question considering the amount of time you’ve spent together (basically none). So he could be turned off and thinking it’s none of your business, etc and if you’re asking him questions like this now, then what’s to come in the future? However, he did sleep with you. So you know each other very well in that respect. Unfortunately, not a good way to get to know someone..And was the shelf in his room or bathroom? If it was in his medicine cabinet, then that’s a bit weird because you’re kind of snooping. I had a friend once who slept with a guy (too soon) who had women’s products (razors etc) in his shower. She asked him about it and he never talked to her again. Definitely for the best…but I think he lost all interest in her because she was poking around. Anyways, people you meet on dating apps tend to be looking for casual sex. He got what he wanted and is now being a dick. Cut your losses. And consider getting and STD test…

I don’t think you posed the question well at all!! There is no way it wasn’t accusatory! It’s one thing to ask if a guy is recently out of a relationship (hence the beauty products) but it’s totally another to say you’re “asking because there’s a lot of guys that are dating outside of their relationship.” Essentially you are going straight to the guy is a cheater instead of any other reasonable explanation!! Please explain how that’s not a mood killer, an accusation and an insult to him?!?! Insulting a man’s integrity is a such fire way to not got on a 2nd date! Maybe you will learn from this and choose your words/questions more wisely.

“New Newbie, could you consider another name? Its confusing to me since i used it for years now. Or otherwise i will change mine to something less Newbie”.

Sure, sorry.

Can my username be “new Newbie”?

I agree with Kaye. The question implied that he is cheating or doing something unethical (having sex outside of a relationship). So it wasn’t a neutral question. She didn’t ask why he had the products, and leave it at that. She asked why he had the products and then asked if he had a girlfriend and said “I’m only asking because there’s a lot of guys that are dating outside of their relationship.” There’s a world of difference between asking a simple question and making a statement like that.

Also his reaction shows that it was most definitely not a neutral question. She hit a nerve by asking it.

So yeah, it was a mood killer and it put him on the defensive. If you are ever in a similar situation in the future and want to ask, just ask him why he has women’s products, and leave it at that. Let him answer before you imply he’s in a relationship and cheating.

I really like new Newbie as a username! I think it’s cute!! 😃

(oh wait . . . no one asked my opinion . . . got carried away there . . . carry on)

Tread carefully. This guy may have just ended a relationship.

Well I’m sure you feel much better now. Look at all of us assuming 1000 things..as women tend to do! Overanalyze. Anyways, still be weary of the fact you met on a dating app and slept together very soon. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. He could be looking for a FWB or casual hook up. Best of luck