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    Lori

    okay, i am just sick and tired of this game playing…maybe just need to rant.

    so, i really liked this guy when i met him end of february. we were dating for about 2 months until i noticed he slowly began to fade away. hell, i even went on this forum to ask if he was interested, etc. he’s constantly initiated texts, but never asked to hang out …texts began to dwindle and of course, in my gut i knew he was losing interest. and so, i just let it go (part of me thought that maybe he was waiting for me to initiate and i DID send him a text about asking to hang out but he didn’t ever respond …THAT WAS A MONTH AGO. i left him alone, blocked him on social media and let it go. we were seeing each other for about 8 weeks at that point and i honestly think he faded out because he couldn’t commit.

    today, unexpectedly he writes, yo! how’s it goin. … like, do you really think that i’m going to answer you after all this time? a part of me wants to write “oh, so you’re bored again and want to suddenly hang?? but of course i’m just gonna ignore. has this happened to you ladies? and it’s SO TRUE. just when you’ve moved on and forgotten about them (i have been dating other guys in the meantime, but i realized that this guy just wasn’t consistent) i just let him go. but WHY do guys do this and expect a response?? nothing good ever comes from this, but totally appalled that guys have the audacity to do this and expect a reply.

    any of you ladies experience the ghost coming back and how’d you respond? i have NO intention of entertaining him, because i heard it loud and clear the first time around. just had to rant!!

    #534598 Reply
    Lori

    btw. i was on the train and while i was waiting on the platform, could’ve sworn i saw him standing there but totally avoided him. and no, we didn’t have a big blowout fight or anything like that – we were fine for 8 weeks until he decided to just disappear. i mean, i don’t text any random guy i’ve dated when i’m bored. don’t understand why guys think we’re used and disposed like this

    #534599 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Ignore. If he tries again, engage

    #534606 Reply
    hh

    i’ve been ghosted before. it sucks and they always come back. ignore.

    unless he actually shows an effort to see you again then just ignore. yo, what’s up doesn’t show a damn change

    #534608 Reply
    Paige

    I would just move on and delete and block his number. Guaranteed he doesn’t have any good intentions.

    #534610 Reply
    Riy

    Move on. It’s never good. Shouldn’t take him seriously

    #534611 Reply
    Riy

    Move on. It’s never good. Shouldn’t take him seriously

    #534621 Reply
    Jules

    This guy is probably bored and looking for an ego stroke. Sending a text is a really easy way to open the door but not risk anything.

    I’ve had two guys in my past pulling the disappearing act on me. One tried to resurface two months later with a FaceTime call (which I ignored) and then the other sent a text which I foolishly replied to. Honestly the second guy was a much more casual arrangement but I still should have ignored. When he sent the “hey, whats up” text I pretended not to know who it was and then when he told me, said, “oh, lol, I thought you died.” I got a laugh out of it but in the end he faded back into the shadows, after getting in my pants one last time.

    Lesson learned. Letting sleeping dogs lie.

    #534624 Reply
    Lekisha

    Ignore him!

    Happened to me before, but lesson learned well, NC means NC. Sometimes they just want to know, if you answer back to their text and ff you do, they won’t answer again. :D

    #534632 Reply
    Cee

    I would ignore him. I tend to reply if the guy asks how I am to be polite and then I keep it moving.

    #534637 Reply
    Leigh

    “yo?”…. Ignore him. He’s already disrespecting you and he will do it again.

    #534638 Reply
    Andrea

    The lazy and uninterested men always Stay that way and acknowledging his ghosting once by responding even once guarantees a new ghosting !

    #534647 Reply
    Kaitlin

    Yep, been there and been caught by a ‘ghost’ again and again. In my case I did the same back to him but it ended very badly so wouldn’t recommend that! However, I think you should tell him exactly how you feel and give him a chance to see that. THEN block.

    But you are NOT worth a guy who says ‘yo’. You can do better. Best of luck x

    #534655 Reply
    alia

    If he ghosted you once, he will ghost you again. This is the honest truth. You could temporarily engage him if you ignored him, but that is just more proof you need to get rid of him. The best way to get rid of a ghost is to block him.

    #534673 Reply
    kaye

    Yes, they all seem to come back out of the shadows again at some point don’t they!?!? This is one of the few topics where you get a unanimous opinion to IGNORE him!! Just a waste of time and energy. Focus that time and energy on finding the right guy!!

    #534703 Reply
    MARY

    Ignore this guy. If he reaches out again in a respectful manner, such as a phone call perhaps, then maybe give him an answer. Texting is too easy, random and worthless.

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