FWB said he doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore,will he change his mind?

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January 29, 2020 at 4:00 pm #783991

Sarah

Mod update: Don’t waste your time on this one.

7 months ago I met a guy and we went out on some dates.
Starting sleeping with each other.
Text every day.
Everything was going good (or so I thought ) then he said he didn’t want to be any more than friends,it was meant to be fun but I was getting to intense and he wasn’t wanting a relationship.
He said he wanted casual.
So we continued texting.
Then we met up for drinks and he kissed me and we slept together.
Continued texting daily but he was sleeping with a different woman every 5 days.
Also he told me he was texting a lot of other women.
We had been spending more time together in November and I thought he was changing his mind about a relationship.
We had a great night together (meal and drinks ) then the next day he slept with a random woman in his car.
I got angry with him and said this was making me feel awful and he said “not my problem,I told you I didn’t want any girlfriend”
“I told you from the start”
Then he stopped texting.
After I sent him a few texts he said
“I want nothing more to do with you,you have no right to tell me off for sleeping around,we aren’t a couple”
“Your boring me now with your constant moaning.
That was 10 days ago ..
I feel awful
He doesn’t even seem to care I’m hurt

January 29, 2020 at 4:52 pm #783995

Newbie

Do you actually want this guy to change his mind? He did tell you he didnt want a gf and if he reaches out again he still doesnt want a gf. So there is no perspective here. But whats equally important is how rude he is in telling you he doesnt want you in his life. Yeah you are not the best detective in taking big hints he doesnt want a gf. If you wanted more you should have walked away a long time ago. But ok you are not the best detective but that still doesnt male it ok for him to be so rude. Why would you want a guy to change his mind that was only interested in sex with you and many other women and telling you are boring and he doesnt want to have anything to do woth you anymore.
I only used your own story as a mirror here and i hope you will see how you are giving your heart away to guys who dont deserve it to all. If you dont change your ways, you will end up getting hurt by guys like this over and over

January 29, 2020 at 5:32 pm #783996

Khadija

So many things that made me shake my head when reading this.

First off never settle for less, if he didn’t want a relationship that was your cue to move on. Instead you settled for an FWB.

And to make matters worse he shoved it in your face. Plus, you put your health at risk. He could have given you an STD with all the women he is sleeping with.

Please know your worth and never speak to this man again!

You are in no place to date because your standards are beyond questionable.

Please take some time to heal and learn to love yourself. If you don’t this situation will replay itself over and over again.

Don’t end up broken and resentful, you have a choice.

January 29, 2020 at 6:01 pm #783997

K

“Sarah” is “Lisa’ is I forget the name she used in her first post way back. This is “Lisa” just posted a few days ago about the the first woman she got involved with who stated upfront months ago she wanted nothing serious with the OP and rubbed in her face all the women she was constantly screwing. Exact same language and scenarios.

Sarah Lisa whatever your name is… all you are doing here is whinging and not facing the facts.

SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU AND NEVER DID. You were just another plaything to her. You allowed yourself to be used and all this jazz you’re spouting in the post from a few days ago of you’d thought she’d change her mind and want to be serious with you is just a pity party.

You’re not taking anyone’s advice and you keep going over the same ground This is the third or fourth time you’ve posted the exact same sob story. You’re breaking the rules of the site by using different names as well and I”m sure the admin will step in now. A longtime poster just got banned because she ignored the rules and also posted the same stuff over and over and never wanted the advice and never wanted to change.

You have to grow up and take responsibility for the choice that you made to keep going back for abuse from this woman over and over. You really need to get with a counselor, you’re beyond any assistance that you’ve been offered here.

January 29, 2020 at 6:09 pm #783998

K

Compare from January 26 post by Lisa:

This was my first experience with a woman.
We started chatting in may time and at first it was great,she seemed really interested.
We went on dates and were getting close then she backed off saying she didn’t want a GF but we kept texting.
Then started sleeping together every few weeks.
We had a weekend away together and had such a good time,then we met for drinks two days after we came back.
Then two days later she slept with a barmaid and sent me a pic of the barmaid saying she slept with her.
Every weekend she would sleep with different women.
I thought after our weekend away she was wanting to be with me.
We text daily,phone calls etc
I was upset every time she slept with someone and would tell her I was annoyed.
Then she asked me to hers but I had plans with a friend so she said “not to worry il get one of the other girls over “
Then sent me screenshots of all the girls texting her.
The final thing was when she got with a girl in the toilets of a club as I was stood outside and walked past me.
I lost my temper and said it was disgusting and even tho we weren’t together as a friend that showed no respect.

After that she said she wanted nothing more to do with me.
She was sick of me telling her off when she was single.
I tried calling no answer.
I text her saying why I was upset /hurt
She responded..go bore someone else,I want nothing more to do with you zzzzzzzz
Stop bleeting on
So cold
How can she treat me so coldly and Like I’m nothing?

January 30, 2020 at 5:13 pm #784086

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Yes – thanks K, this is indeed the same person.

Sarah / Lisa – Changing names like this tends to cause me to be suspicious of a poster’s intentions, and it is disrespectful for the community’s time and effort spent in responding to you. There are a few other factors that have caused my suspicions to be raised.

It would be better if you didn’t post here anymore.
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