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Ashley
Hey,
If you could help me with advice on this it would be great. I have been dating this guy for 5 months and we are serious and have been making plans for the future. We have two different lifestyles and he likes to party and drink and I don’t. I will occasionally drink with my friends but do not like staying out till 2am in the morning partying. I initially went with him to these parties but the girls there are single and several years younger than him and they started flirting with him right in front of me. It makes me think, what are they going to do when I’m not there? And they are dressed with practically no clothes on and are trying to get guys attention. I told my bf I didn’t want to go to these parties anymore and he still wants to go. I feel like he is acting like he is single and open to meeting other girls by going out on Friday’s and Saturday’s to these parties.
I told him this and that it makes me feel uncomfortable, am I doing the right thing? Do you think he should not be going to these parties when he’s in a committed relationship without me? He 29 and these girls are 24.
Thanks for the help!
Raven
He doesn’t sound very mature for a 29 year old…
Dyanne
Well, he’s free to do whatever he wants. The question is what are you willing to accept?
Let’s put it this way: he is a regular at these parties. He was before he met you. For sure these girls have been there, too. But he chose you. Why are you so insecure? Is there something else that makes you doubt him or it’s just your fear and passed relationship trauma talking?
I like going out, my last boyfriend was a hermit. So we made a deal: he would go with me to “big” events like weddings or birthday parties and I would go out with my friends the rest of the time. I would come home at 5 or 6 am, no problem. He trusted me and I felt free and the thought of cheating never crossed my mind. If he were insecure and asked me not to go… I don’t think we would have lasted for one month. We were together for 5 years, why we broke up is a completely different matter.
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