Do I call him out?

I totally agree with T. Your power is in walking away, not in calling out a luke warm guy

Agree with T.

I faced the exact same dilemma – I went on weekly dates with a guy but he did not text me often. It would take him literally a day to reply a text like “how’s thing going” but he replied me long texts with qns and new topics. I thought he was interested and since I liked him too, I made the move to talk about my confused feelings in this connection.

It did not go well. He was honest that he didn’t see me as a potential partner but a fun person to hang out with / talk to. And him holding back text reply is to signal me not to see the connection serious. I was the classic back pocket girl as T suggested.

So lesson learned – don’t ignore red flags. If your instinct tells you that he is not keen, trust it! And do not expect too much from a date until the relationship becomes committed. If a guy is interested in you, he would come to you. I suggest you not to text him. He may need space to process his thinking, he may need time to focus on the career / family, or maybe he is seeing other people and talking to multiple girls. Let him initiate dates and conversation. If he is not ready, he is not ready. And remember, you have every right to see other people.

A man who is into you will never make you confused that he’s into you. The difference in their behavior is night and day in comparison to a guy that isn’t. If I were you I would stop trying to drive the bus, let him do his thing and you do yours.

I know it sucks when you like him more than he does you, but you can’t force someone to feel a certain way. Calling him out will not do what you think it will, it will do the opposite. Let go a little bit and if he reaches out, mirror his interest level. Understand that this may not work out the way you want, and look for others to date as well.

I would agree with Chloe. I do not think you’re being needy. I think you just want to know how to proceed and aren’t interested in wasting your time. It’s not fair for a guy to string you along. I believe he does like you but not as much as you like him, and still has interest dating around. Again doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or see a future with you but isn’t ready to commit yet.

I would act as casual with him as he is acting with you. I don’t think calling a guy out after 5 dates is appropriate especially when he’s not blowing up phone. Pull back, let him take the lead, let him miss you. Focus your time and energy on dating other people and self care. If he asks you out, go out, but don’t prioritize him. I think after another 5 days you can ask for commitment, but in the meantime just have fun!

Disagree. This man doesn’t owe her another date and she doesn’t owe him a peep. Chloe, you are essentially teaching her to let men do this, by hanging around on the rope of hope, which is why men get away with it. This has zero to do with communication because men aren’t stupid, they KNOW women date for relationships so unless he is living under a rock, he is behaving like a man who lives on Planet Mars. She is needy because she is NEEDING HIM to do something to allay her fears but he doesn’t want to, and not going to do it, or she wouldn’t be here asking for help. Doesn’t matter what she says, he doesn’t care and will be happy she did the work for him because he’s a coward, and hopes the lady disappears into the ether, which is what the OP ‘NEEDS’ to do.

Hanging around waiting for a man to notice you exist is just prolonging the agony. If a man isn’t on board, and wanting to see you a minimum of one-two times a week, with regular communication in-between by showing you he’s very keen or smitten, you drop him off the dating roster pronto because you are no longer on his mind. Only women who are, or remain on their mind, all the time, receive the type of attention the OP is seeking…when they stop (usually when a new woman enters the picture), the dating dance ends, and a smart woman gets off the floor.

Does rejection sting, sure but its going to hurt a lot worse the longer women keep allowing men to neglect them. Best to rip the band aid off, drop them like a hot skillet, and continue to use your precious time meeting and dating the Mr. Wonderfuls v. Mr. lacklusters. No communication required.