Did I text too much?

Just recently he started to tell me I am his “soulmate”

I am deeply upset right now because I am starting to feel like this silence is him telling me he will never speak to me again

I think it’s a game, but then it’s the awful realisation that it might really be the end.

In one of my texts I asked him straight out to tell me if this silence means our friendship is over , and he wouldn’t answer.

I don’t know if that means , no it’s just a game, or if he can’t be bothered even giving me an answer.

I was looking over some Facebook messages of him, looking for some info about something else a while back, and is just started crying because I realised how much I really miss him, just seeing his funny conversation. It hit me really hard, unexpectedly.

Hi there,
I think all he needs is some space. Maybe he has a lot on his mind. You may be thinking well we’re close, he can tell me anything. But you need to realise that he may just be waiting to talk to you when he is ready. He could also be extremely busy. I understand its not right for a good friend to just stop talking to you after two years. The best thing for you to do right now is just leave it for a little bit. After a few more days, if he hasnt texted you back, then go to his house and talk to him face to face. Texting isnt the best way to start talking after a long time. Sit down with him and ask him nicely, dont start shouting at him as he could be under a lot of stress about something. It could also be because he likes you and is too shy to talk to you. Maybe he just realised his feelings fr you so hes trying to get his head around everything.
Hope this helps x

Thanks Eda

The last night we spoke was the day he had just moved into his new flat, and we were taking about others things and planning next weekend and I didn’t think to ask his address, so I don’t know where he is living now. So I can’t go over. And I’m not going to ask anyone where is living.

I think he isn’t talking to me because of my texting, not because he has feelings for me.

Update

Still haven’t heard anything. The last text I sent which was some time ago I said if he was wanting 1 or 2 or 3 weeks no contact or a month or whatever I am happy to just give him that , just let me know how long.

But he wont even tell me that , which just makes me feel like he has been enjoying the attention.

I think what triggered this whole thing was we had a phone conversation where he apologised for being aloof after sex the week before. I was happy he apologised. Then a few days later he started being aloof again and I said you just apologised for this and you are doing it again. I texted you are always so hot and cold and I never know when the cold but is scheduled for.

He is always hot and cold and I think I’d had enough. I think that text about cold bit being scheduled was the trigger to him not speaking to me. …..that was two weeks ago ……not a word since

This guy is underserving of one more second of your time, thoughts, consideration, or feelings.

Please lose him completely, for good.

Thanks phillygirl

Khadija thankyou, the problem is he did this a month ago when I wouldn’t leave for a trip with 5 minutes notice, it was midnight and he wanted me to drive 1000km. So he didn’t speak to me for a week, meanwhile I was texting him the next day saying hey maybe we can go Saturday. No response, it went on for a week and when he finally spoke to me I didn’t hold him accountable, I was just relieved he had broken his silence. It bought it was a one off. I have had no experience with the silent treatment before so I should have realised he might do it again

Back then I doubt he would have done this for two weeks, but now he knows he can do it for one week,and get away with it he is still doing it. And my texts have all being nice. When I thought he had gone missing they became a bit frantic, but his friend told me he was alive. But I haven’t been angry, at least I didn’t go there..

And u want to be with (keep in contact with) such a loser because????

UPDATE

Well he ended up texting me today. Three weeks later since i last heard from him

He said, and i am NOT joking

that he had been “abducted by aliens”.

I didnt reply

I’m going through the same thing right now. I hate it, but now i have to play the waiting game to see if he replies to my apology text and 1 email. I tried to be funny in the email and said: About those messages… You see, what happened was this…. I wanted to see what it’s like to be a complete and utter jackass and to ruin a great relationship. Wouldn’t you know — I nailed it! Then I only said a few more things about hoping we would still get together this fall for some road trips in my motor home, etc., I know he was looking forward to that, so I may be OK. ;-)

seriously, “abducted by aliens”, this guy is nuts

you did the right thing of not responding to him, and please don’t ever.

get yourself busy, be with your other friends, or date someone else.